3 year old boy listening

Amanda - posted on 04/13/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have a 3 year old an he doesn't listen and would rather do what he wants and if he doesn't get his way he throws a fit or screams. Like he goes into the kitchen and opens the fridge, goes into ny room, plays in the bathroom, goes in the laundry room, pulls on the blinds, or messes with his baby brother(3 month old). My husband and I have tried everything yelling, sending him to his room for time out, even spanking an nothing works.
Please help.

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Sarah - posted on 04/13/2014

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Ignore the fits and don't give in. My rule is you can cry/scream all you want in your room when you don't get what you want, BUT when you come out of your r om the fit stops or you are put right back into your room. Many times when there is not an audience to throw the fit for the fit ends up being much shorter.

Amanda - posted on 04/13/2014

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Thank you so much. Is there anything else that you have in my mind for when he throws fits

Sarah - posted on 04/13/2014

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Sounds like a normal 3 yr old. You have to be consistent and follow through EVERY TIME. Time outs work REALLY well, but you need to do them the right way and be consistent with them. Time outs should be in a spot where he can't see tv, can't play with anything, and there is NO interaction with you during the time out. If he gets out of the spot BEFORE the 3 mins are up you put him back SAY NOTHING and time starts over. At first you might be doing this several times and the time out might take HOURS but if you stick with it the next time it will be less. When you put him in time out you BRIEFLY explain why.....A short phrase is all that is needed. When time out is done you briefly explain why he was there. You have to be consistent. ....you can't say don't touch that and give a time out but the next time not give a time out. You also can't say you will have a time out and not give it. Also give ONE warning......it is not fair to him if one time you give him 10 chances and then next time you give him two and then get mad at him for not listening.

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