3 year old daugther cries for 2 to 3 hours continuously

Yameen - posted on 06/02/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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Hi All,

I would seriously need some advise here, I am really tensed and not sure of what to do or how to clam down my daughter when she is crying.

She is 2 years and 9 months now, she started speaking very early and is okay health wise, height wise, is sharp with analyzing things and communicates very well and is also very good in grasping things. Despite all this she cries for 4 to 5 hours in a day and almost 2 hours every time continuously. No matter how well we try consulting her, trying to give what she likes, make her play the fun stuff she always likes to do, scare/threaten her or even beat her up so that she does not cry. Nothing actually works. In-fact she cry to an extent where she gets completely tired and her throat starts to pain and also her voice changes but despite all this she does not stop crying.

All this she does with silly to no reason at all. Also when she is normal and play full we tried consulting her as to why she cries and her response is "I dont know" and at times consulting her about it also results in out burst of crying for another 2 to 3 hours. There is no way she stops cry on her own, we will need to talk her out of the cry trying various things and somethings just click at times and sometimes it takes hours to talk her out of crying.

I even consulted various doctors, I have learned my child is anemic (Low on hemoglobin in the body) and she does not eat well too. But no doctor has been able to provide me with a solution over her crying nature and how to over come this.

I am really very worried, this crying is actually effecting her health very badly.

Please provide me with any support you can. I would really look forward to any suggestions. Thanks

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Sarah - posted on 06/02/2016

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I agree Moons and I should have added to my response to give her lots and lots of positive attention for acceptable behavior. One other thing I wanted mention is to be sure she is getting enough sleep. Nothing harder to deal with than an overtired toddler.

Moons - posted on 06/02/2016

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Ignore it (I know that it is hard to do, but if you want to maintain a level of sanity you must try). You are providing her attention each and every time she cries. Give her attention when she does something desirable (as it seems as if she is seeking your attention by doing things that are not desirable). For example: If she says her name when you ask her, if she pees in the potty, if she behaves well in the market...... praise her, clap, and tell her in your most high pitched voice how great of a job that was, hug her, and etc. (not in a loud voice because you don't want to scare her) She will eventually realize that she will only receive attention for positive behavior and not negative.

Sarah - posted on 06/02/2016

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So she cried for a whole hour and then you "talked her out of it"? What did you teach her by doing that? To keep on screaming until she has your full attention and all the focus is on her. Rewarding bad behavior is not going to make her stop. No child ever died from crying. The crying is not causing the anemia. She has you wrapped right around her finger. Toddlers don't have much control in their lives and they try to take control by refusing to do or participate in even simple everyday activities. Until you stop rewarding her with attention, she isn't going to quit.

Yameen - posted on 06/02/2016

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I tried this too :(

But unfortunately it has not worked, she kept crying for 1 hour and finally we had to talk her out of it.

She is already in medication for her vitamin and iron deficiency. But I do not see any improvements nor she is ready to quit crying. She is vitamins from past 6 months now but the uncontrollable crying has started from past 3 months.

She cries when we try to feed her (The biggest struggle), she cry when we try to put her to bed, she cry when we want her to get dressed, taking to toilet almost all petty things. And when she starts to cry there is no end unless we talk her out by diverting her mind.

Sarah - posted on 06/02/2016

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Many young kids have iron deficient anemia, a daily vitamin with iron will help that problem. When a toddler has a tantrum, there is no reasoning or talking her out of it. Just ignore her, leave her to scream and I would think the tantrum will end sooner that you think. Scolding her, hitting her, offering her toys or whatever is giving her attention (even negative attention is attention) and rewards the behavior. Stop feeding the fire. Tell her one time, when she is thru with her fit, you will be ready to play, read or eat and then walk away.

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