Corie - posted on 07/26/2016 ( 7 moms have responded )
Hi moms. I apologize in advance if this sounds crazy...I feel crazy and my thoughts are everywhere. I'm new to circle of moms and am looking for support.
My 3 year old son has recently been diagnosed with developmental delay in the areas of Social skills and language. He was a typical baby, very happy, met all of his milestones (some early) but around 20 months of age my husband and I noticed that he wasn't speaking as much as he previously was and wasn't playing with the kids in his daycare. We discussed our concerns with his ped. and was told that he seemed fine but referred us for testing to be sure. He was given the STAT screening and did very well. The specialist did however refer us for speech services. He has been receiving services since October and has made great improvement but still has a little ways to go. The agency that we are using is state funded and when a child turns 3 they are referred to their location school district. After discussing our concerns the school district performed the ADOS screening for autism but once again didn't feel that he met enough of the markers but rather gave him a diagnosis of developmental delay. What does this mean? Will he catch up? What kind of life will he have as an adult?
He is very smart. His memory is amazing and his daycare teachers agree and state that he is right on point with his peers as far as learning is concerned but when around other children, there is a clear difference in his language (which seems to be around a 2 year olds language) and his social skills. I'm so confused and am honestly hurt. I felt that I did everything right. My pregnancy was very hard but I followed all of the doctors suggestions. I feel as if someone has taken away all the dreams I had for him and it isn't fair! I cry often but hide it most times because I don't want people to think that I am disappointed in him or that I'm a bad mom. I just don't understand.