3 years of bullying

Heather - posted on 12/16/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My 11 year old son has been bullied.There is a group of boys that have choked, hit, kicked, spit on, had stuff thrown at and not to mention all the aweful names he has been called. I have called the school , that didnt help. Called the school board, that didnt help.I called the law they said call the school. I did finally get mean with the school board and some minor changes was made and everything was good for a couple months. Now it has all started again .This time the bus driver said to me i have written this kid up so many times and nothing is done about him. But that he would be written up again.So another call to the police this time they said go to the Distric Attorney but you will have to pay for a restraining order. What good is a restraining order they go to the same school. Noone is doing anything now I really dont think that will make a difference.Please if anyone has any ideas that will help me in this problem please please let me know. Thanks to all.

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Heather - posted on 12/17/2013

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Thank you so much for response. Just encouragement from other parents really helps. Yes the law said i had to go to the D.A. and press charges. The D.A. said i would have to pay 125.00 for an order of protection unless i wanted to go before the judge and he could do it without me having to pay anything. That is what i am doing we are waiting to go before the judge, not so i can get out of paying the money but just so the parents will see how serious this is. I requested a meeting with the parents at the school. The principal said that was not a good idea at this time. The main reason she said that is because one of the boys his mother encourages her sons actions, if we are out places in the town we live in and happen to see the boy and his family the mother will start cussing us and yelling crazy stuff at us. The civil attorney that we was issued did call today and said she was contacting the school and school board today to see if the proper procedures have been followed. I can tell her now they have not been. I know she has steps that she has to follow, and i so hope something happens soon. I have talked to them about moving to another school which will cost me 500.00 dollars but that dont matter. That is my next step. Oh and i also contacted our local news station and told them what the problem was, my reason for that is cause i have seen where other parents have turned to them and brought much needed attention to the school not taking care of the bullying problem. We will see how that turns out i will let you know what i find out. Thanks again for caring and offering me your thoughts and advice. Sending lots of love and gratitude to you.

Rebekah - posted on 12/16/2013

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It sounds awful! I wish I had some specific suggestions, but it sounds like you are trying every avenue, and that's what I would do too. What about the parents of these other boys? I don't know school procedure, but I wonder what would happen if all the parents could come together (with school officials) and talk about what is happening? How is it nothing is done about these boys? Did the law actually have you press charges against the boy/s who choked/assaulted your son?

Follow the advice of your lawyer... if you need to make a stink at your school for them to follow a "zero-tolerance" policy against bullying, then I think its worth making a stink. Bullying is a serious issue, and if the school is weak on their policy, then a fuss needs to be made. Victims of bullying can suffer extreme depression (and worse).

In the meantime, your boy needs to be kept physically/emotionally safe. Can he sit by the bus driver, or get a ride to school if the bus is unsafe for him? If this has been going on 3 years, is it time to explore other options for school and give him a fresh start somewhere else? You don't want the bullies to "win" by chasing him out of the school, but enough is enough... if the school won't protect him, and the parents of these bullies don't seem to have an effect on their kids, then I'd have to put the safety of my kid first and look elsewhere so he can focus on his education and not get beaten down by his peers. I'm sorry you are going through this... I hope things work out in the best possible way.

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