3 years old girl talks well at home with families, but not outside

Vivien - posted on 11/20/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have a 3 years old daughter. She talks lots at home. But we find out she is very quite when we go outside or if someone come to visit us. She is in day care since this Sep. , now more than two months now , she barely talks with other children and her teachers.
What can I do with this situation?

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Dove - posted on 11/21/2015

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I'm just going to leave this here... I have twins in the 9th grade. One will talk to anyone and everyone. The other loves it when she makes it through the day w/out talking to anyone at all. lol

My son who is 7.5 now started preschool at 3.5 and it took him a good 4-6 months before he was really playing and interacting w/ the kids. Now he can and will talk to some random stranger for 2 hours straight. lol

It could be the language issue or it could just be your daughter's personality. She might just need time to warm up or it could be just who she IS... Give her time and encouragement. It'll be OK.

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Sarah - posted on 11/22/2015

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IMO to label this as some sort of mental health issue is way premature. Especially given that her behavior is not abnormal for even a single language household. If she is not as comfortable speaking English, and doesn't speak English at home, why does it surprise you (or your doctor) that she is a hesitant conversationalist. Like, Dove, I had one daughter who would talk to anyone, anytime about anything and my youngest still at 11 is timid and takes her time. She's 3, give her some time.

Sarah - posted on 11/21/2015

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English being her second language might play into it a bit. She may not be as comfortable speaking it, but it could just be her too. My daughter is much like yours. She is very slow to warm up to others. New situations are hard for her. She does better when you can prepare her for the new situation. I would agree with your doc. It is psychological. If her speech is good then you know she can do it now it is just giving her the confidence. Maybe try talking a bit more English at home....still keeping your first language spoken too. Try to seek out other opportunities that might be positive for her and encourage that playing/talking.....play groups, preschool dance or gymnastic classes, preschool music classes. Find something she enjoys doing and would be a positive encouragement for her. It will come :)

Vivien - posted on 11/20/2015

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Sarah, I am glad to hear that . I spoke to her doctor yesterday, I thought my daughter may need speech therapy. But doctor said psychologist may be need for this situation. She does take long time to warm up to play with others and try new things, i thought that is her personality. But for talking is really taking us concern now. By the way English is our second language , we do speak other language at home. Do you think it may be the reason for her not talking with others?

Sarah - posted on 11/20/2015

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Just keep encouraging her. It just takes time. I have a daughter that did the same. Could be shyness, could be nerves about talking to others. Just keep putting those situations out there where she has to talk to others. Be encouraging, help guide her if you can. Then just give it time. A year later my daughter is talking to others. She still gets nervous, but she is talking and working through it.

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