3 yr old Preschool

Jennifer - posted on 10/14/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son just started 3 year old prek in sept. And when he started he would kick and scream going in the door but came out and seemed happy after school. Hes only in school 2 1/2 hours a day mon-friday. He will be taking two years of prek with the same teachers. He says the teachers are mean. I'm not sure if he just says that or if they really are. Hes very attached to me and I think hates leaving me to go to school. But I don't know if I should switch schools and see if that makes the difference or just wait it out... He still cries every day before going to school not as bad but she still says he doesn't wanna go and will cry walking in the door. He says he doesn't play with anyone, he hates everything and the toys. He hates playtime in school. He told me that the teacher locked up cars cause the kids were making a mess so now he cant play with these hotwheel cars. and theres a kitchen set he said was closed cause the kids made a mess. Idk if these teachers are just really strict and he doesn't like that or what. but hes only 3 and I don't like seeing him not wanna go, I want him to wanna go to school or he might end up hating it later in life. I signed him up so he can social with other kids and separate alittle bit from me since hes with me 24/7. What should I do?

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Jennifer - posted on 10/14/2014

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He just went into the school alittle while ago. He said he didn't wanna go. I told him not to cry today and that he has to go to school. He was ok until the teacher opened the door. He gave me a kiss and hug and walked in. He always turns to me and blows me a kiss until he goes into classroom. He will literally turn and look at me like 5 times from front door to classroom door. and blows me kisses, that's why I feel it might be he doesn't wanna leave me. But when he turns to look at me you can see the tears in his eyes.... It breaks my heart... :( I printed a pic of me and had him put it in his bookbag and told him to pretend I'm in his bookbag watching him. He just laughed. Idk if that'll help or not.

Jennifer - posted on 10/14/2014

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I have talked to the teachers about my son. In the beginning of school it was day 4 and he was kicking and screaming not wanting to go in. The teacher said to me that she doesn't think hes ready and wanted me to take him home. I insisted that he needs prek cause I believe he has a hard time leaving me and on day 4 I was gonna just give in to him.. She didn't seem like she wanted to work with me and him. Now its over a month into school and the kicking and screaming has stopped because I told him if he flips out like that he cant kiss and hug me the teacher will just take him in like she did when he was screaming. so kissing me and hugging me is big with him so he stopped with that behavior. But everyone morning he still says he doesn't wanna go to school and he will cry as he walks into the school. I asked the teacher how he is during the day after I leave. she says fine. I said he tells me he doesn't play with anyone at playtime, she said that's true he will say he doesn't wanna play and ask to sit in the chair. she said he just sits there in the chair. So that part he told me I guess is true. I haven't asked the teacher about toys and things being locked up yet cause he just told me that part. he has a field trip tomorrow and im chaperoning so im hoping maybe to ask the teachers then and see what they say. He might just not like rules too or maybe they are strict. I thought prek would be fun and he would wanna go but that's not the case here! I cant sneak into room without anyone knowing, its a school and you have to show license and go to office and theres no window to just spy into the classroom...

Sarah - posted on 10/14/2014

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Why not just talk to the teachers. You may learn a lot about what is and what is not just by talking to the teachers. They might be able to help you and help your son with the transition also. You also have to realize it is going to take time. If it is getting better then it is moving in the right direction. It is a change and change is hard sometimes, but if you work at it the end result is much better. No matter what grade he is in or what school he is going to you are always going to need to be in communication with the teachers. Instead of jumping to what might be an extreme right now do what you are wanting your son to do. Take it one step at a time. Talk to the teachers, talk to the director. Find out what is going on in the classroom. How does your son do during the day? Who does he like to play with? Ask questions! That is the only way you will find out what is going on. It is good to talk to your son, but he is also 3 yrs old so some of what he says might be a 3 yr olds perspective not really what is going on. Are the cars really being locked up due to mess or are they being locked up due to fights, or changing around of toys, or are they just being put away at a certain time (not locked up) because the class is moving onto something else. To a 3 yr old all of those situations could be concluded that they cars are being locked up due to mess, but to an adult there is a more logical reason why the cars are being put away.

Shameka - posted on 10/14/2014

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I think you should sneak up on the teacher jus for a while to see what's going on,don't let them know your there.Also don't let your son know your there so you can get the feeling of what he's talking about,or have a counciler involved maybe that'll work to

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