35 year old recently single mother 38 weeks pregnant, separated from husband.

Ana - posted on 06/17/2013 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I am 35 years old and recently a single mother and currently 38 weeks pregnant and feel so alone...anyone else going thru something similar?

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Be strong, it sounds you are soooo much better with this man out of your life. I ended the relationship with the father of my child when my son was 2-3 months old. I went through a rough time while I was pregnant, he told me he didn't love me anymore, more than once so I slept in a separate room for the end half of my pregnancy. Its funny though even after all this I still stayed with him right up until I found out he'd gone and bought a block of land an hour from where we lived and had started to design a house. Doing all this without me and keeping secrets was the killer in my book. He didn't care what I wanted. Now our relationship is so up and down its horrible. He hates me, I try to remain the calm and responsible one for the sake of my son. What got me through those early days of having a new born in turmoil was going for a good walk every morning, even though it was too the café for a coffee and muffin , its what got me through! all the very best my dear, youre right they don't get it, these men. You are at your absoloute vunerable right now. Do you have a loving mum nearby?

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Karon - posted on 10/25/2015

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I'm 37 & due with my 1st daughter 1/15(the day before my 38th bday!)...My husband and I have 4 sons - the one we have together is 6, my husband has 19&22yr old's, and my oldest son just recently turned 20. I actually went in for gallbladder surgery and found out I was pregnant - the migraine medication I had been taking negated my birth control!!

In July, I left my husband - due to several years of rx drug abuse following a 4mo deployment to Afghanistan...We were married in 2006...We met IN RECOVERY. I have almost 12yrs, and he hasn't been able string more that a cpl of weeks at a time since 2013. (He would have over 11yrs)...

This is BY FAR my most stressful pregnancy. It's taken me 6mos to even get excited. It's very hard to work full time, give a hurting 1st grader the attention needs, living with my MOTHER and be pregnant. But I do not doubt the little girl is a blessing.

Letoyia - posted on 07/26/2014

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I am 33, 4 months pregnant, 3rd child. Pregnant by husband but been seperated a year. I fight depression, financial struggles, considering adoption for this baby but unsure, sad alot, feel overwhelmed and alone and unloved.

Chantal - posted on 06/18/2013

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I use to feel that way too. Just remember YOU are the one that will be there for your babies first smile, first step, first day of school, high school graduation, etc. not to mention the tremendous amount of respect they will have for you for being the parent who loved them enough to stay! My kids are now 22,20,18 and 15 it was hard but, it was worth it!

Ana - posted on 06/18/2013

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Yeah you're right...I know in the end it will be well worth it, I guess just right now it feels like my world is crumbling down on me. I am exhausted mentally, emotionally and physically while he is out enjoying his life. I would never ever give up my kids to enjoy life the way he is and I just don't get how he is. It's obvious men are very different from women. I am much happier that he is not here, it was truly a headache having to deal with him every single day. I was so unhappy! I just wish I had the right man by my side to enjoy our kids together. Having to enjoy all the first moments of my son and now my daughter when she is born is going to be lonely to not have their father to share it with. It is what it is, I need to mentally get over it all because I was the one who asked him to leave. I just could not take it anymore. He was not nice to me emotionally at all and was very in to himself. Its like you said it was more work to have him around then to not. Now, he has moved on with his new girlfriend and that validates the fact that I don't think he ever did love me, which hurts even more. :(

Chantal - posted on 06/18/2013

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I am not sure where you are located but, I know there are mommy groups for mothers of pre schoolers (M.O.P.S) in many areas. Find a good mommy group and make some new friends. Hopefully you can get some support there. You would be surprised how many single moms are out there.

Chantal - posted on 06/18/2013

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I am so sorry honey. I am glad you had the courage to end a relationship that was un healthy for you. My kids' dad had substance abuse issues so, I had to do the same thing. I ended up raising my four babies alone and ten years later he is still in his addiction. Believe it or not, it is easier to be a single mom than to deal with a misbehaving man and all the stress that follows AND trying to be a good mom on top of it all! Being in your last month and dealing with this kind of disappointment is going to be rough but, knowing you and the kids are better off will be worth it in the long run :)

Ana - posted on 06/18/2013

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I have some support but it seems like everyone is drifting away like they don't want to hear about my pain anymore but it's only been 3 months ago that it happened. It's so hard emotionally. I left my husband as well. We just got married in August of last year. We have a 3.5 year old about to turn 4. He was addicted to pornography to the point it was affecting our relationship. I didn't realize how bad his addiction was until after we were already married. We already had other issues that I should have never gone thru with the marriage but did it because I wanted to do something right in our relationship. We started our relationship off too fast to begin with. I had known him since I was young and when we started to date 3 months later we got pregnant with our son. I fell too hard for him instead of giving it time to know him more since we hasn't seem each other in years since we were younger. After I ended things with him I started to look thru his emails and phone bills and saw that he would watch porn 2-3 times a day and only 5 days after we ended things he started to date this girl from work who he is still with. That makes me believe that he had feelings for her before I called it quits. Who jumps into another relationship that fast especially when Ur wife is pregnant and unjust recently got married. And his girlfriend knows me and knows our situation. It's so hard to swallow even though I don't want him back anymore. That's the part I don't understand...why does it bother me that he has already moved on?

Chantal - posted on 06/17/2013

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I had to leave my husband when I was 8mo pregnant with my daughter. Do you have family support?

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