35 yearl old son wont move out unles it comes to a brawl

Nikki - posted on 02/20/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




My 35 year old son was married for 4 years and after his divorce, he moved back home. tht was 7 years ago. Since living back at home he hs gotten involved in drugs, been in jail 3 times, picks only women on welfare to hang out with and refuses to help around the house. If he does happen to clean a tub one day, he espects praises. He can't get a job due to his record and he doesn't have a care becuase the last 2 have been repossessed. He also has jail time that he hasn't completed. He's been kicked out 3 times within the past years that he hs been living back with his family but we always take him back, Last weekend things came to a climax againbecause he doesn't do anything to contribute to the household and we are sick of it. He and my husband got into a fight so he has been asked to leave again. He has been gone 3 days but still thinks it's our fault that he had to leave. He doesn't have anywhere to go so is basically living with frineds from house to house. My sone wasn't brought up to live like this. He has had do many nice jobs and has blew everyone of them. If I don't let him come back home I feel like he will start using again but if he comes home, the whole famiy stays in turmoil. Any suggestions on the right way to handle this? Do distraught!


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Michelle - posted on 02/20/2014




Stop enabling him. He's an adult and he has to support himself. You have been babying him for 35 years!!!!!!!
He is old enough to make his own choices about how his life ends up and you have to let him.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 02/20/2014




Put your foot down and make your son behave like an adult. He's 35!!!!!!!!!!!!

If he's not disabled, and not terminally ill, he can get off his ass and do something with his life.

Serve him with permanent eviction papers, and practice this phrase "Son, I know that we've allowed you to come back time & again, but it stops now. You will need to find a way to take care of your responsibilities and support yourself, because your father and I did our part in raising you for 18 years, and you've gotten another 17 out of us free of charge. If you'd like to live with us, we'll arrange a contract to outline your rent, and your responsibilities in the home. If you do not agree with that, then please take care of yourself, and keep in touch”

He’s only continuing to use you, because you are continuing to allow him to do so.

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