4-5 month old wont sleep unless held.

Lisa - posted on 04/30/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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my grand daughter is 4 1/2 month old and was born 4 weeks early. and unfortunately exposed to heroin and was in NICU for first 5 weeks of life. My son, never married to mother (having no clue mom was using heroin) took custody once he found out. My son and grand daughter live with us. Due to her withdraw issues, and other small complications she was a baby needing to be held alot, even in the NICU. Happy to say she is now off all medications and withdraw and a beautiful happy girl. But now she wont sleep unless held, this is taking a toll on all of us. my son is a stay at home dad during day and he works and goes to school at night. Any tips ideas and /or suggestions greatly appreciated.

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Tanya - posted on 04/30/2014

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I know it's tough, but I would hold her all that she needs. Your son has a lot on his plate and sounds rather young. I can't help but feel bad for all of you.

She's only4 1/2 months.

She is 4 weeks preterm and a baby that was sick (to put it politely). She will grow and it will be over so soon. This baby needs all the support and love she can get. Her life has started off on the wrong foot and she didn't ask for that. Look at it in a positive way, she feels safe in your arms. She helpless and so innocent. I can't imagine putting her down actually.

My daughter loved to be held too, it was hard, she's 11 months now and sleeps on her own. I found comfortable spots to sleep with her.

I wish you the best of luck!

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Tanya - posted on 04/30/2014

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Oh!

Actually, I just remembered my pediatrician suggested added a clothing item that you have worn in her crib- don't wash the shirt though. It has to have your son's sent!

Lisa - posted on 04/30/2014

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Thank you for the empathy. My son is 28 and so hard to see his first experience as a daddy be like this. He was in the NICU everyday of the 5 weeks except for 1 so he is really attached, and bonded with his princess. We have done just what you said and have held her almost non stop, and now we cant even get her to sleep in her crib. She is grandbaby number 6, but the only one who has ever lived with us, and the things we had to do for her were and are so different than what i did for my 4 children. And i am just hoping to get her to at least sleep in her crib for naps or part of the night. But once i again i truly appreciate your kindness and am encourage knowing that you feel as I do that she will grow out of it.

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