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Winny - posted on 06/14/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have 3 children. 6.5 years, 3.5 years and 4 months. I am currently struggling to juggle between the baby need and the older kids schools & homeworks. It is not easy, but very rewarding. I do not know really how hard it would be if I have no.4 , would it be harder than 3? Some people said that after the third, it gets easier. How it works? Does the kids tend to occupied themselves or maybe I would have got used to the works and chaos already? I am a bit hesistating. I have lots of pressure from my family that I should not be having more kids. In fact, they had lots of negative feedbacks of the third one. Questions like: Is it accident? Are you sure you want this one? You are out-date mom to have many kids. etc. That makes me feel really upsat. In my heart I know that I will love to have more kids, they are blessings.

I have read a lot of conversations of mums with 4 kids have very efficient morning and evening routines. The mums sound really handling everything so well, I must give a thump up. I just want to know, does most mum handle the tasks all by themselves, or some with the help of their husband, perhaps? My husband was very hands off from the first kid, he did not know what to do. He is getting a bit helpful now. At least change nappy and putting to sleep sometimes. However, some time he could be out of home for couple of weeks. Just want to ask for feedbacks of other mums experience and get some mental supports.

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Sarah - posted on 06/20/2015

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I have been out working at the summer camp, so I can only check in once and a awhile. The workload changes from tending to immediate needs, to science projects, sporting events, school meetings and active social lives. Busy, but a good busy!

Winny - posted on 06/15/2015

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that's alright. Not a problem. I assumed without 'mummy hungry', 'toilet', 'bathing times' means less work. Oh well...surprises follow, I guess

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/15/2015

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Oh, my, yes, much busier when they get older! That, I didn't expect either...LOL...after all, older is supposed to mean less work, right? Not exactly...
Sorry for the misread on the pregnancy too!

Winny - posted on 06/15/2015

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Thank you for your replies. They are very helpful and provided me with a realistic expectations. I am not pregnant yet. For sure, I will assess my situation more before considering no 4, though I loved to. I had a very tough time with the 2 big kids when the baby was born. Year 1 was having tantrum with homework, preschooler was having separation anxiety. Things are quite settled down now, except for the preschooler still whining about preschool. I am trying to set up a routine for all the kids, morning and evening. Hope that helps. Well, it is useful to know that life will get more busier as they get older, that I did not know. Thanks. Best wishes to all.

Sarah - posted on 06/14/2015

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I have four kids. The youngest arrived when my eldest was in first grade. Yes it is a lot of work but I found the toughest adjustment (aside from simply becoming a parent the first time), was going from one to two. After the second the third and fourth were just added to my routine. The laundry increased exponentially, but otherwise I did not find having a larger family to be difficult.
However, I can say from experience that the older they get the busier things get. Mine are 18, 16, 13 and 11 and we are on the move constantly.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/14/2015

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Depends on your personality. I'd say, if you're struggling with time management now, when the kids aren't that old, you'll have a harder time with another in the mix.
At this point your 6 yo really shouldn't have THAT much homework...maybe a spelling or counting exercise at most, and your 3 YO is still in preschool. I've never, ever heard of a preschool that assigned homework to a 3 YO
However, from the sounds of this, you are already pregnant with the 4th, if your family is telling you that you need to slow down.

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