4 kids and going crazy

Gayle - posted on 05/07/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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I have 4 kids; 6yr, 5yr, 2yr, and 4months. With taking care of the kids, taking one to school, helping with school work, nursing, potty training, and trying to keep a clean house. I am going crazy, I sometime have a short temp with my older two. I need some creative ideas to keep peace in my home and maybe keep the kids busy and happy so I can read a book (have some me time) And my husband works 10hr shifts so I have long days with the kids, I love them but they are all so close in age and so young. I need help.

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Kelly - posted on 05/07/2009

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The idea of finding an older neighborhood child to spend some time with the kids sounds good. I remember when I was maybe 8 or 9, I used to love to go to our neighbor's house and "babysit" (really just play with) their young daughters. If you can find the right child, who is kind, patient, and trustworthy, she could help entertain your kids while you can get a few things done or maybe just relax. I have 4 kids, but they are spread out (17, 15, 7, and 3). The big ones are a huge help. My 7 year old loves to sweep, vacuum, rinse the dishes while I wash, and help put laundry away, so I definitely think your older ones could help out some. Even though they won't do things the way you would, it will do your heart good to see them try! Every chore becomes more pleasant if you have help. I personally find it works for me to be very organized about my housework. I do laundry on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays only. I clean the house on Wednesdays. Of course I have to vacuum almost every day, but by having the dusting and bathrooms done on the same day every week, I just feel like I get more done. I also make to-do lists all the time. It feels so good to mark things off! Good luck to you-and keep telling yourself...some day, your house will be clean and quiet, and you will find yourself wondering what the kids are doing and wishing they would come over!

Angie - posted on 05/07/2009

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Bless your heart. I only have 3 children and I always figures if I had 4 I'd get a lot of rest.........................in the mental institution! When hubby is home, fill a tub with bubble bath, turn on some music (to drown out the kids) and read a book. You'll be a better mother when you get a little time to remember who YOU are!

Karina - posted on 05/07/2009

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Hi Gayle, I have five children, 17, 4, 2.5, and 18mth twins. I would suggest the older two can help out around the house by sorting their own washing, and socks into pairs..... I also used a good behaviour chart and marble jar with my eldest.. everytime he was good, and helped around the house, he got a marble in the jar, when the jar was full, he got to pick an activity, sometimes making pizzas for dinner, sometimes picnics in the park... the other suggestion is go to the local op shop, and buy some glam clothes for the kids to play dress ups. Unfortunately busy is an understatement until the kids are all old enough to fully entertain themselves, so hope this helps in the meantime!

Good luck! Karina

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Mommabird - posted on 05/14/2015

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Wow..reading all the comments made me realize Twins are more common than I thought! And what youre feeling is also very common. My hubby and I have 6 kids altogether. 19 mth old twins, 5 , 10, 22 and 24. Three boys and three girls. And all I can say is thank goodness 2 are grown and live on their own...and the 10 yr old is able to help me out when I'm having my meltdowns. Lol. She notices when I'm getting stressed and little ones are being so hyper and loud...she steps in and finds a book to read to them or puts on a Disney movie. Although I can't leave them very long...sometimes 5-10 min of silence and deep breathing helps! I have to add though...at no time does our 10 yr old feel like she has to be mommy for me..she says that's what big sisters do! Kids get breaks from siblings by going to their room and shutting the door....parents don't have that option. So she says that's her way of giving Me a break! And she has chores too. Any child capable of doing them Should Be. Even our 5 yr old wants chores because he sees sister doing them. We even have a chore chart and a time frame it has to be done so its not put off till last minute. It works..and it helps. Oh and it also helps to have a neighbor or friend you can call for adult conversations. Lol. I know it gets depressing to Me when all my conversations are with children . My hubby works night shift so our time is limited...it all goes to Kids.

Raquel - posted on 05/14/2015

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I have four boys too - 6, 4, 2 and 2 months. I'm going totally crazy. I'm also trying to homeschool. I'm so glad I'm not alone. My husband works crazy long days and the closest family member lives 4 hours away. Honestly, I often just resort to the tv in the afternoons. And I'm trying not to beat myself up about the lack of cleanliness in my house, the piles of laundry and dishes, the month old thank you notes that need to be sent.

Ashley - posted on 05/01/2014

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I am a single mom of 4 sons... 8yrs, 6yrs, 18mnths , and 7 months...all boys and 1 with ADD. There are moments when I think I will go bald! those moments you would chew off your arm to stay in bed till noon, skip cooking, cleaning, homework and everything else. on top of this I work as a LPN weekends and attend full time college classes 2x a week and online. Im sleep deprived, have no time and not quite sure how I haven't lost my mind yet! I dont shop alone, eat alone, go potty alone, shower alone or sleep alone. There is no grandparent on either side to offer a lending hand or a sanity day. Trust me your not alone, I feel your pain, stay positive, and your doing an amazing job if you havent checked into the phsyc ward yet:) good luck!

Kirstin - posted on 05/07/2009

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Id like to congats you all. Wow i have two kids only 13mths apart and I find that stressful and busy alone. Patience is hard but well earnt lol. Good luck to us all.... HEHEHE

Sarah - posted on 05/07/2009

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I know exactly how you feel. My kids are 6, 4, and twin 22 month olds. My husband in the Army and gone a lot. He has been gone for a month right now. There are days where I think I will lose my mind. I wish I had some good advice for you. I just take it one day at a time. I wish you the best of luck : )

Angie - posted on 05/07/2009

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I just thought of something else. When my daughter was 5 weeks old and my son was 5 years old my husband left for training for 13 weeks (not much for a military wife but forever for a cop's wife). I lived in an area with no family. To add to the stress, the day before dh left my daughter was diagnosed with a hole in her heart. I used to hire the neighbor girl (I paid her in french toast - LOL) to come play with my older child while my daughter slept so I could have a bubble bath.

BB - posted on 05/07/2009

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1st: Be patient with yourself. So many moms expect so much of themselves. Sometimes the house won't be super clean. With little ones it can be like trying to shovel in a snowstorm.
2. The biggers can help with simple chores. (Likely you've already thought of this.) Putting dishes in dishwasher. Sorting clothes into piles.
3. Find a neighborhood teen who can help keep kids busy and hour here and there. You'll be in the house, so it won't be as nervewracking as leaving the kids alone with a stranger. (And likely it will be cheaper)
4. My only creative idea for keeping peace would be to stick everyone in the tub with a can of shaving cream.
I am an Army wife with four children. Love them, but I love me too and I have on many an occasion plopped everyone in front of the tv. (Only to Noggin or Playhouse Disney) I feel guilt over that, but breaks are important!
Hugs to you....Remember, this too shall pass. It's always darkest b/f the dawn. Every cloud has a silver lining...etc...LOL

Jaclyn - posted on 05/07/2009

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Oh Gayle im sorry i can not help you but you did just make me realize what my life will be like in a few months. I have a 5 year old a 9 month old and pregnant with twins due in aug. I already know i would go crazy but reading your post made it real lol.

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