4 months old baby refusing breastfeed, only wants bottle.

Amina - posted on 12/05/2015 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My baby, whom I was breastfeeding and bottle feeding at the same time from last 4 months, has totally refused my feed from last 1-2 week. I was giving her two bottles per day, one early morning and one before sleep at night. 2weeks back I gave her a bottle in the mid of the night as well. I did it only two nights but after that she refused to take my feed even in day time. My feed supply is decreasing day by day. I'm using breast pump as well to keep my Bfeed coming, but it's really hard to use as it's hand pump. She takes my feed durning night when she's half sleep but in day time she pushes me away. I'm taking meds(hi-lacta) to increase my flow. I also switched her on new born size feeder as it has one hole and has less flow so that she can adjust to my feed. Also doing skin-to-skin therapy but nothing is working. I want her to hate bottle and come back on my feed. Please help me please. I can't sleep any more because of stress. She also has two teeth by birth. She bites if I forcefully put my breast in her mouth. And please recommend me any professional group as well. Thanks

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Sarah - posted on 12/08/2015

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If she is not having at least 6-7 wet diapers, loses weight, becomes lethargic or is dehydrated (no tears, dry lips and sleepier than normal) then you need to get more into her. Whether you pump, breastfeed or bottle feed formula (or a combination of those) is fine. I understand your desire to nurse exclusively but for some babies it just doesn't work that way. Any milk she gets from you is a good thing. I am concerned that you think it is ok for your husband to slap you! Pakistan or anywhere else, it is not ok for a man to hit his wife.

Amina - posted on 12/08/2015

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Yes he did and I'm living in Pakistan so just can't leave the house.
Back to my problem :( after yesterday's bottle she took my feed in the morning without any trouble but now she's fussy and refusing my feed again. Just made her sleep without any feed. Now am I making her weak by not giving her bottle and she's not taking mine as well? I'm scared for her. Am I hurting her growth progress by not giving her enough feed?

Dove - posted on 12/07/2015

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Your husband slapped you?! I would take my baby and get out of that house. That is NOT OK for any reason whatsoever... ever. Stay safe!!

Amina - posted on 12/07/2015

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Thanks Sara for replying. From last night 24 hours I didn't give her any bottle. She wasn't pushing me away and was completely on my feed. Just one hour before she started fussing again and was pushing me again. As I'm living in joint family system ( with my father and mother-in-law) her crying voice became big issue. My husband slapped me as hard as he can as I was refusing to give her bottle. My mother-in-law gave her bottle!!!! She's asleep now. And answer to ur question I gave her bottle right after birth as she was born by c-section. After three days she started my feed. She latched on very nicely. Gave her bottle and my feed parallel.

Sarah - posted on 12/07/2015

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When I say sleep through I guess I should define that as 11-5, so baby is skipping one feed, your baby is content enough to fill her tummy and comfort herself back to sleep with nursing. Especially if she gets a big bottle right before bed....I exclusively nursed; I had one that slept thru 11-5 regularly from 3 months on, the others got up at regular intervals until 6-7 months. After 6/7 months it was more of an occasional feeding during the night; my last until 14 months but I totally enabled him!

Dove - posted on 12/07/2015

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Most 4 month old babies do not sleep through the night... nursing through the night is actually rather important for 'most' babies until closer to a year.... The rest I agree w/ though.

Sarah - posted on 12/07/2015

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If you want her back on the breast exclusively, you may have to tolerate a nip or two. She is nursing during the night for comfort and to satisfy herself. At 4 months, you could see her sleep through and not need to get up, so the night feedings are a binding time. I agree that if you offer your breast more often and first at every feeding; you may get her back to nursing. Bottles, even slow flow nipples are much easier to suckle that a breast. It is a different technique altogether. At what age did you first start the bottle?

Amina - posted on 12/05/2015

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Thanks dove for replying. She has two teeth by birth. If I keep her hungry for a long time, she gets fussy and bites me.

Dove - posted on 12/05/2015

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She'll nurse when she gets hungry enough. The more you keep giving the bottle... the more she will refuse the breast. That's really all I can offer. There is a breastfeeding moms group on here if you go search through the communities, but I don't know how active it is anymore as i have not breastfed in a long time now.

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