4 Weeks pregnant and scared!!!

Debra - posted on 02/02/2011 ( 18 moms have responded )

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Hi I am just found out today that I am 4 1/2 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child. I don't know who the father is its between my boyfriend and a guy that i just had friends with benefits with. I told both of them and they both want it to be there baby. I don't know what to do so if my due date is Oct. 9th then when should i concieved i had intercourse with my guy with benefits on the 29th of Dec and I had intercourse with my boyfriend now on new years eve. Someone please help???

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Sharon - posted on 02/02/2011

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Um 1. stop being scared. 2. start planning now for the consequences. 3. why did you have unprotected sex with two different men if you didn't want to face this outcome?
4. How do you think we can help? This isn't a psychic hotline.

Amanda - posted on 02/03/2011

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Your estimated conception date was between Sunday, January 9, 2011 and Sunday, January 16, 2011



So if your boyfriend was the last one you had sex with, its most likely his. Next time use condoms or birth control. And have a serious conversation with yourself, and figure out why you need two men. It isnt fair to your 2 children already born and this one on the way. Grow up.



It does worry me that after 2 children you still can't figure out when you got pregnant.

Tina - posted on 02/03/2011

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you people need to stop being so judgemental. The only answer to this is a paternity test :)

Krista - posted on 02/03/2011

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Uh... if you're due on October 9th, NEITHER of those days are plausible as your date of conception.
You would have had to conceive between January 12 and 20th for that due date.

So, think again who you slept with because neither of these men could be the father based on the dates you gave.

Perhaps you should practise monogamy in the future.

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Blackwood - posted on 02/06/2011

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I have say that since sperm can live in the body for up to 5 days, it could be either or. You will have to take a DNA test to make sure. I wish you luck that's a hard situation to be in, but you'll get through it.

Stifler's - posted on 02/06/2011

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No one is "getting judgemental" we're stating a fact. A paternity test is the only way to tell.

Debi - posted on 02/06/2011

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i hope everything works out ok for you its very easy for people sitting on a laptop to be judgemental about your situation just stay positive and keep yourself healthy and happy xx good luck in your pregnancy

Rachel - posted on 02/04/2011

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If you've been having sex with your boyfriend since new years and not the other guy then I think it's your boyfriends based on your due date. If you google conception calculators and put in your due date it gives you an idea of about the time you conceived and you could see if it matches with your cycle for that time.

This is what I got from your due date when I input it:

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Results:

First Day of Last Menstrual Period: January 2, 2011

Probable Date of Ovulation: January 16, 2011

Possible Dates of Conception: January 12 to January 20, 2011

Due Date: October 9, 2011 (40 weeks)

Also you could ask your ob when you go for your first appt. Just tell them your issue and they will also give you a possible time of conception. Hope this helps. I know it's hard but take a deep breath and try to start preparing for your new baby. I know it will be stressful but it's already done and you can only move forward. But you do need to figure out how the men are going to be involved in your life that way things will be easier for you to sort out.

Nicole - posted on 02/03/2011

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i know someone who is goin thru this exact situation an just because u slept with the last person an found out doesnt mean hes the dad....they were WAAAY to close together...and i wouldnt recommend doin one while prego the person i know almost went thru with it an she didnt cuz it could result in a miscarriage an its MUCH MUCH more expensive wait until the baby is born to do it!!!!!

Miriah - posted on 02/03/2011

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There is no way to tell. Going to have to get a paternity test if you want to know for sure. Sorry.

Sarah - posted on 02/03/2011

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The 29th & 31st are just too close to accurately figure out whose baby it is. Worrying isn't going to do anything for you situation except freak you out even more. Concentrate on your physical & mental health for the sake of your baby & once he/she gets here, get a paternity test done. That's the only way to know 100% in this situation.

Melissa - posted on 02/02/2011

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got to admit I wouldnt have gone and had unprotected sex with someone I wasnt in a relationship with. But its done now. Be more responsible next time. My friend had this problem pretty much exact same issue. Bf found out it wasnt his after patnerity test when they finally had it done

Vanessa - posted on 02/02/2011

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i'd be peeved if i was your boyfriend at being put in such a situation

Emily - posted on 02/02/2011

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the 29th and 31st are too close to be certain. Sorry.. think this is one you'll have to wait until the baby is born.

Melissa - posted on 02/02/2011

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you conceived approx jan 23 if your due date of Oct 9 is correct. It is possible to be a week out either way

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