VERONICA - posted on 07/15/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
My 4 year old daugthter has not been wanting to go spend time at her dad's house. Her dad seems to think that this is coming from me and that myself and my other 2 daughters that are not his are telling her negative things about her dad. He states that she says things like "I wanna go home to my real family" or telling his wife that she does not have to listen to her because she's not her mom. I don't really know what is going on over there because I'm not allowed in his house and his wife wants nothing to do with me. I actually found out recently from my 4 year old that her dad got married and that she is pregnant. I tried to tell him that may be the problem, but i get minimal response from her dad when I try to talk to him about it. I feel horrible when she goes because she's crying when they leave. There have also been a couple of occassions when she calls me and asks me to come get her. I really try hard to do what is in best interest for my child and have even tried to make peace with his wife so that my child can feel comfortable with the situation. I have no idea what goes on in that household or how things are handled. I don't know his wife and I have no idea how she is around my daughter. I know that we are not suppose to give the child the option of not going, but lately I'm feeling like I should give her the option to stay at home.I feel horrible when she leaves here crying that she wants to stay home. I don't know what to do. Any suggestions??