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My daughter Sophie turned 4 back in April and first off let me tell everyone about her routine. I pick her up from daycare around 5:15pm, which is right down the road from our home. After we get home she wants a snack, which is usually a pack of fruit snacks or yogurt. Then she gets to run around outside, even in the rain we go out and play. Jump around in puddles, jump on the trampoline, swing, ride her little bike around, walk down and get the mail. Then she plays inside while I make dinner. We eat at the table and by then it's usually around 7-7:15ish so its bath time, which she loves! We wash and then I let her play in the tub for about half an hour then we get PJs on and she's allowed 1 thirty minute TV show of her choice, she's also given another snack because she's usually hungry again (apple, banana, string cheese, etc). She only gets water from 7pm on, no juice or anything with sugar. Between 8:15 and 8:30 she and I go to her room to read a few small books then its bed time for her. She won't go to sleep unless I stay in the room. This has been the way of it since she was changed from her baby crib to her toddler bed and she's now in a twin size bed. I don't have to be in bed with her, just in the room. I sit in a chair by her door and read while she shifts and moves around in her bed until she falls asleep. Usually takes about 15 minutes for her to be out. All is well until the midnight hour, she never wakes up before then. She never wakes up crying or upset. She just gets out of her bed and comes in my room. My husband and I wake up when we hear the door open. I usher her back into her room, put her back into bed, sit down and read until she falls back asleep. She never throws a fit, cries or fusses. Now this is when times and details start to vary from night to night. She can be wide awake and not go back to sleep for up to an hour or she can go to sleep within minutes of laying back down. When she's asleep I go back to my own bed. And the cycle repeats itself 3-4 times per night. No notable pattern on when she wakes up. It could be five minutes after I get back to bed or it could be an hour after. The past couple weeks I've been getting too exhausted to keep wrangling her back to her room so after the 2nd trip back to her room I've been curling up at the end of her bed. I know this is going to start just another bad habit but I don't know what else to do. I tried talking to her about why she wakes up and she doesn't really have an answer. I asked her if she's afraid of the dark and she told me she is, so now she has a night light and I only dim the ceiling light in her room instead of turning it all the way off. That did nothing to change her night time routine. My husband (her step dad) suggested maybe if we locked our bedroom door at night she would go back to her room on her own without waking us up. This didn't work either. If we lock the door then she'll just knock and yell "momma" until I come out. Since I've been spending some nights at the foot of her bed I get to see what happens when she forgets or doesn't know I've fallen asleep in her room. She literally just wakes up, gets out of her bed, opens her door and goes straight for my room. Also since spending time in her room with her asleep I've noticed that she grinds her teeth A LOT. Sometimes its even loud enough to wake me up. I'm hoping there are parents here that have dealt with a child like this and has some good advice because I really need help and sleep. I know she also needs sleep. My husband and I figured she's actually only getting 6 hours at the least and 9 at the most. And she still has so much energy.