Jeanette - posted on 02/03/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am 41 years old. I had 14 years of infertility - and 7 operations to correct endometriosis & Polycystic Ovaries...Successfully became pregnant - and had my son Lee at 37.. good pregnancy and delivery. It became apparent that Lee wasn't developing very well.. He was a very wingey baby - cried alot and could only feed 5 floz every 2 hours for 3 months. Was exhausted. At 2 years I thought Lee was deaf. It became apparent he needed vents - and then diagnosed after that with Autism. At school and the age of 3 years - they also diagnosed moderate learning difficulties. Lee is a lovable child - but alot of hard work... Alot of tears... and problems. He is 4 and half now.. And now at 41 years old and feel the biological clock ticking but I really want to have another baby badly ... but I am in 2 minds because I am afraid that the 2nd child will have Autism as well - and can I cope - as I also have some back problems which I take medication for? I am worried about birth defects and disabilities...But, I really want a baby as Lee is very lonely.. but I don't know what to do.. help help help - any advice would be great and words of wisdom - to put the baby thing to bed - or go for it....!!