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I have my 6 year-old granddaughter 2 - 3 times per week (she sleeps over every Saturday night and I take her to church with me on Sundays) in my care. I pick her up from school and we spend a lot of quality time together. Everyone she knows, knows me and who I am. A lot of people think I am her mother because we do so many things together. I enjoy her immensely and she has brought a lot of joy into my (and other's) life. Here is the problem: I am involved in 99% of her life; upbringing, care, spirituality, transportation,financially, ect, you name it. The 1% I am not involved with is the serious decision making like trying to obtain counseling or advice regarding her behavior. I am not allowed legally to make these decisions. She acts out very aggressively and hits me on a regular basis. How many times can I say, "DON'T DO THAT! THAT IS UNACCEPTABLE! YOU NEED TO GO IN TIME-OUT!!"? Her parents will not take my advice regarding obtaining the counseling that I know she needs and I am desperate for this bad behavior to come to an end. I have tried to seek advice from her teachers and pediatrician but they cannot legally talk to me about anything as I am not her parent. Even though everyone knows me well, and even knows me better (regarding her) than even her own parents, I am not allowed to get any type of psychological help for her. There's a lot more to this story, too much to write here. Has anyone been in a situation like this? Does anyone have advice for me as to what to do? Maybe I just need support, or someone to talk to. I am really sad about this. Thank you.