Andrea - posted on 03/27/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )
Well..here goes nothing. I am four mo. Pregnant with my second child after knowing the father for only 5 months. (It feels like 5 yrs.)
The day after we met he hurt himself at work and shortly there after got fored from his job as he was within his probation period. He didnt seem to struggle too much with money until right before xmas when he told me he was pretty strapped. I found out I was pregnant shortly after xmas (he did get me a gift btw) and the birth control i ws taking obvs didnt work. The bf waited and waited for his ei to kick in and it finally did in Feb this year after i supported him for a couple months so he could get through. I in the meantime was working an extremely stressful job and resigned due to harassment and medical reasons so I had been on ei as well. We were both avidly looking for work and he became more and more depressed in the meantime. After 2 mo. Of seeing his depression symptoms i finally convinced him to google how he was feeling. He diagnosed himself with bipolar. A few weeks later he got a job (a decent job) but one where he hasto drive an hr. Back and fourth to work everyday. He was coming home to me very irritable and moody and told me often of his suicidal thoughts. I told him I thought he should go see a dr. And he agreed. He went to the doc and sure enough bipolar was top of tje list. He was put on meds just shy of a month ago now and last week decided he was going to take his meds when he felt like it. His moods have now been so unsteady that I have been catching him in lil lies...which i never really thought as anything before but now it seems I am catching more and more. I noticed that as of late he hasbeen distant as well...and hiding his phone from me. So i questioned him aboutvit and he said that there was nothing. Me...being female....had to investigate. I told him that i wanted to look at his phone. He was reluctant at first but finally let me...and coast was clear...until i looked at facebook. He had been looking at x rated material on facebook pretty much since him and I met and though he knew it would upset me he went behind my back and did it anyhow. When I asked him why he was looking up this sort of thi g numerois times a day he said he was looking at it for the thrill...he knew he was doing something wrong and it gave him a rush to look at these women. I am really having a hard time deciding what to do about all of this....i am feeling very insecure and hormonal because i am pregnant and my body is changing...and I am having a hard time trusting him because of lil lies ive cauggt over last few months. I really want a family and the lifestyle that comes along with it. I just dont know how to trust him after so many lil things have happened. Any advice would be appreciated..