Dayna - posted on 04/08/2010 ( 44 moms have responded )
I had a 4th degree tear with my second son and this was an incredibly difficult experience for me and my family. My son was 8lb(3650kg) so an average weight and I did have him at home with 2 midwifes to help. They have spoken with me numerous times about it and have always said that my labour wasnt fast and went very smoothly and they were very surprised at the result. I had nearly 100 stitches and they basically had to rebuild the sphincter muscle for me to have full use in that area. It took just over 5 months for the stitches to heal and within this time I was back and forth to my doctor and hospital with not a huge amount of support. No one apart from a specialist was able to reassure me that things would heal. I wish that I had been given some sound advice at the beginning and realistic time frames in regards to how long it would take to heal.
This was an extremely traumatic ordeal and to this day when i think about the birth it comes with alot of negative and overwhelming feelings.
Luckily this didnt affect my bond with my son and I didnt suffer from PND which Im still amazed about. I had alot of help from family thanks goodness.
Basically I would just like to know if any other woman have had this happen to them and if they have gone on to have other babys naturally or opted for C/Sec.
Thanks for reading