4yr Old Behavior Changes - What should I do?

Kristin - posted on 10/07/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




Lately my 4yr old daughter has been acting weird. If you raise your voice to her, tell her she did something wrong, or if she know she did something bad, she runs to her room crying and slams the door. Why would she be doing this? It's frustrating especially when you are trying to explain to her why she shouldn't do something.

How can I help her react better?


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Chet - posted on 10/07/2014




This is pretty common. Children can go through periods of being very sensitive.

I would just try to speak to her more gently. You shouldn't need to raise your voice. Maybe trying replacing blunt statements like "that's wrong" or "that was bad" and frame things up as "this would be better...", or "next time it would be safer to.." or "can you think of something better than x?".

Also encourage her to talk to you instead of running away. It's good if she can learn to to say, "that hurts my feelings" or "I feel sad that I made that mistake" rather than running to her room and slamming the door.

Banafshe - posted on 10/07/2014




my 3yr old son was the same for a while. I would ask him to come out and look at me when I'm talking to him it, or if he was so upset I would just wait for him to come down and then talked to him. he is 3.5 now and he doesn't do that any more. hope it helped.

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