4yr old in pullups and 9 month old wont sleep!

Samantha - posted on 10/12/2011 ( 200 moms have responded )

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i have a 4 year old daughter who is still in pullups at night and ive tried everything to get her out of them with no success. anyone have any tips or tricks? as well my 9 month old son started sleeping through the night at 5 months old, but at 7 months stopped and now wakes up every 4 hours not to eat but to play! if i try to give him a bottle he refuses he just wants to be awake.. any tips or advice??

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Pamela - posted on 10/12/2011

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You say you have tried "everything" to get your 4 yr. old out of pull-ups (a tragedy that they were ever invented in my opinion), but what does that include?



Earlier I posted to another Mom about pull ups. PLEASE try regular cloth training pants. When a child can FEEL wet clothes on their body they get the message that it is uncomfortable and so will TAKE THE RESPONSIBILITY (which pull ups negate) to get to the toilet. In her case perhaps wet pants and wet sheets will get the message across in a week's time. If it means doing laundry daily for just a week to get her aware of her responsibility, that's not a long time at all. (You can use the rubber sheeting provided for protecting mattresses under the

sheet to prevent ruining the mattress).



Make sure she is NOT drinking any liquids or eating anything like ice cream that immediately turns to liquids at least 1.5 hours before bedtime.



As for your 9 month old, if he is in a crib and cannot climb down and get into mischief, allow him to wake up and play until he falls back to sleep. Sounds like a temporary thing to me which you should let "play out". If the habit lasts for 3 to 6 months then I would suggest speaking to a pediatrician about sleeping patterns. Otherwise ACCEPT the fact that your child cannot tell time and therefore is unaware of the "expected" sleep pattern.



As long as he cannot hurt himself with the toys left in his crib or bed (hopefully with sides that allow confinement) he should be fine.

Sherri - posted on 10/12/2011

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If he only is waking to play then don't go to him. If he wakes and isn't in need of anything then let him just play by himself in his crib, when he tires of this he will go back to sleep.

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There is nothing wrong w/ a 4 year old in pull ups at night. SOME doctors will be proactive about the issue by 5... others will tell you not to even think about starting to worry til the kid is 8. EVERY kid is different.

My girls were out of night time pull ups at 4.5, but still had wet beds on occasion for the next 4 years. My 3.5 year old son has been fully day and night trained for 9ish months and has never once had a wet bed. I didn't do anything different for any of the 3 kids as far as night time stuff is concerned. It's the KID that is different/ready at a different time. If the kid is ready... any 'trick' may work. If the kid isn't... no 'trick' will work and you'll just cause you and your kid a lot of useless stress.

As for the baby sleeping issue.... good luck! That same 'simple to potty train' kid didn't sleep through the night til he was 2. ;)

Sherri - posted on 10/12/2011

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There isn't any tricks Samantha her bladder is simply not mature enough to make it all night long. Many kids still wet the bed till 10 or 11yrs old. Leave her be she will outgrow it when her body is ready. It is completely normal and 100% not her fault or within her control.

My friends 7yr old still wears pull ups to bed and my best friends son wet the bed till he was 9.

Katherine - posted on 10/12/2011

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I wouldn't worry right now about the pull-ups. My daughter was in them too at 4. Sometimes they just sleep too deeply. Better to have a pull-up then an accident.

I would be concentrating on your 9 month old. Is he active during the day? How many naps? What time? How long? Is he teething?

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Joyce - posted on 10/18/2011

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Just at night? I wouldn't worry too much, but maybe chat with her doc about it. My grandson will be 4 in 4 months, and although I have lucked out about half dozen times, he refuses to let us know when he needs to pee. So day and night, he is still wearing the pull ups. The waking up to play, can and will get old. Day time naps help mom take a break and rest, or catch up on the chores, whatever. But, if you aren't getting enough at night, the day seems to never end. Try eliminating day naps for a few days. See how that changes. It might also be an indication of a growth spurt. When the grandsons, and their mothers when little, would have a growth spurt, they would be full of non-stop energy just before the spurt. Once their bodies started the growing, they were tired and grumpy all the time. At least til that growth spurt stopped.

Kylie - posted on 10/18/2011

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Pull ups is still normal at 4 but with your little 1 every time he wakes check on him if he does need anything put him straight back in the cot turn lights off and try keeping a night light on tell him it's sleeptime when he starts to cry wait 3 minutes go back in don't give him any attention just say it's sleeptime lay him down and leave wait another 3 minutes and repeat routine till he does go to sleep it will take time and very tiring for u but it does work goodluck

Jill - posted on 10/18/2011

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I remember so much angst with getting my now 7year old dtr to sleep- used all kinds of methods- Ferber, Weisbluth, and she slept better when she was ready. Bedtime consistency is always important as well as nap consistency. Not too long, try for same times. So incredibly frustrating when you're going through it. Try reading those authors for ideas. Re: bed wetting, I would also stop pull ups ASAP. And no drinks after dinner. No shaming the child- it will happen when the child is ready. Lots of praise for any dry nights. Hang in there.

Roxanne - posted on 10/18/2011

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maybe your 9 month old is sleeping too much during the day. Try waking him up early from his naps, that way he will be more tired at night. Keep his room dark. If my LO wakes up in the middle of the night and even the hall light is on he will think it is time to get up. Try to just leave him be at night unless he crying uncontrollably, and even then try to comfort him w/o picking him up. This has worked best for me. As for your 4 yr old, make sure your not giving ANY fluids within 3 hrs of bedtime. Let her go without the pullup, and just get a mattress cover instead. Maybe after wetting herself a few times she will make the effort to get up in the middle of the night to pee if she has to. You will have to clean up the mess but maybe she will get the idea after a few nights. Good Luck with both!

Jennifer - posted on 10/18/2011

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I had a six year old still in a pullup at night. I've been told by many doctors that you should maybe be concerned after six but until then it was pretty normal. About the 9 mo old I have three and they never slept through the night the first year. They were up every 3 hours exactly. Breath it will get better and you know you miss it with your other!

Lorraine - posted on 10/18/2011

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as for the youngest having wake nights i agree with Janice above me in thread but personally if its possible depending on age as long as your awake and hes awake a little time together aint so bad, i used to get up with my son and go downstairs and lisen to music have a cuddle, yhed soon drift off again :)

it may not work every child is different , trial and error is the best way to find your kids best ways for dealing with stuff

just remeber if your kids aint doing whats others are it dont mean your a bad parent just that your kids are your kids and will do what they need in time there own time, be patient with them and yourself :)

Lorraine - posted on 10/18/2011

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your daughter will be dry at night in her own time, night time wetting takes longer to gain control my 5 year old son still has them at night but has been dry since he was 3 during the day

if your really concerned then get her looked at by the continence nurse, thru your doctor/health visitor

Janice - posted on 10/18/2011

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Have you tried using Feber sleep training? Or if you prefer the gentler method, I would recommend Kim West's Sleep Lady Shuffle - First 3 nights sit with him beside his crib, with no eye contact, just go shh-shh so he gets bored and know that you are there but not to play. Night 4-6, move half way between the door and crib (u can extend or adjust depending on how he is doing with the first 3 nights) and do the same thing. Night 7-9, sit by the doorway so he can still see u and then Night 10-13, you can sit outside the door and shh-shh if needed to so he knows u are there.

Personally I prefer the feber method as my presence in the room only makes my kids more excitable..

Hope this helps. Babies go through different milestones and changes all the time and they needed to be "reminded" that night is to sleep, not play. Consistence is really the key here.

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Pamela - posted on 10/18/2011

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Samantha, I have a soon to be 5 year old at the end of this month. I thought that I was going to loose my mind when he didn't sleep through the night. It took till he was 2 1/2 years old and potty trained during the day that he actually slept through the night. With response to your potty training and still in pull ups, I would say that yes reducing the liquid intake is a good idea but also having her go to the bathroom just before bed in order to empty her bladder might be helpful which could also reduce the wetting the bed. Good luck and I hope that you arrive at a resolution that suits you as well as your daughter and son.

Melanie - posted on 10/18/2011

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I find that products like Pull-Ups prolong the "potty-training" process. Accidents in the bed allow the child to learn what is uncomfortable. Inconvenient for you, but she will actually learn not to wet the bed. As for your baby, don't worry about play time in the middle of the night. Children (and adults!) go through cycles of sleeping a lot or waking up a lot. As long as he is safe, why worry about it? He will eventually start to sleep longer again. Another thought is that he may have to go pee in the night and is initially waking up for that reason. The idea of a "mature bladder" is a fallacy, considering that many cultures have their babies "potty-trained" at extremely young ages. Look up more on elimination communication to help you understand how that works.

Lesa - posted on 10/18/2011

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Your daughter may not be making the hormones at night that tells her body to stop making urine. I have a nine yr old that takes medicine at nine to stop urine production. Our doctor explained that two or three most children's body produce a hormone that tells the body to stop making urine. If it doesn't happen by 2 or 3, it may happen by 8. If it doesn't happen by that point it will happen when they go through puberty . We used pull ups until she was 7, And started sleepiness. At that point we started the medicine to stop urine production. It is pretty common, I have now come in contact with many other children that have the same problem, their bodies simply are not ready .

Sarah - posted on 10/18/2011

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My daughter is almost 15 months and it is still a struggle to get her to sleep through the night. I have talked to three doctors and read everything I can find on the subject. When she does wake up in the night now, I have no problem getting her to go right back to sleep. We have a very rigid bedtime routine, that includes a snack as the last step in the routine. For the last hour and a half prior to bedtime, there is no television on at all. When she wakes up in the night, I don't turn on any lights. I don't talk to her or pick her up unless she's really upset or doesn't feel well. I lay her back down in her crib, make sure she has her binky and I stand in her room until she goes back to sleep, which usually takes about five minutes. My cousin's (whose name is also Samantha) four year old daughter also still wears pull-ups at night. Her bladder is probably just not strong enough yet.

KAREN - posted on 10/18/2011

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we had our daughter in them at night until 6 and it rook waking her up in the middle of the night because she'd sleep so hard to take a trip to the bathroom. Nows she's nine and no problemss,

Michelle - posted on 10/18/2011

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I agree with bonnie, i have potty trained 3 out of 4 of my children and my oldest 2 stayed dry at night from the first night but my 3yr old doesnt and that's o.k. she'll get there when she's ready, i definitely dont push it cuz that would just cause her to rebel :)

Bonnie - posted on 10/18/2011

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I can't remember if I responded to this or not, so here it goes...

I would rather have my 5 year old and 3 year old in diapers or pull ups at night then have everyone lose sleep over it. If their bladders are not strong enough at their age, then so be it. I'm tired of hearing people think that just because their child stayed dry at night from the time they were day trained that every child should be.

As for a baby waking at 9 months old, there are a few reasons he could be doing that...he could be hungry or teething, but he is not getting upset, so there is a big chance those two things are not the issue. But, if he is just waking to play in his crib and talk to himself, I don't see a big deal in that. He isn't bothering anyone.

Patricia - posted on 10/18/2011

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Hi I posted earlier and I have been reading some of the replies and I am appalled by some peoples responses. The question was put out to get some helpful suggestions, not for people to be judgemental. Sometimes there are circumstances that you have no Ideas about and to call people lazy and say terrible thigs is not very nice and does not make the people saying them a nice person at all. Which comes back to if you can't be nice don't say anything at all because it really doesn't help. Thankyou.

Dawn - posted on 10/18/2011

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Looking at some of the other posts, I have to agree that Pull-ups at night really aren't so terrible. I will add, however, that with my own DD (and others for whom I have provided care), if she knows that she's wearing a pull-up, she's more likely to USE the pull-up, as opposed to actually going on the potty.
As for your non-sleeper, my DS still has sleeping nights, and non-sleeping nights. He's 22 months.

Michelle - posted on 10/18/2011

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my 3 yr old is now out of pull-ups for night time...i have her go potty before going to bed, no drinks after 8 and i make sure i get her up in the middle of the night preferably by 4am as recommended by her pediatrician. there is something about the 4 and 6 o'clock hour and bedwetting and she always wakes up dry. she is a very very deep sleeper. I nurse my 7 month old around that time so i use it as the opportunity to take her to the potty :) And as far as your 9 mo old, my 7 mo old sometimes does the same, wake up a 2 am ready to play, gotta love em lol i just make sure that i dont turn on any unnecessary lights or sounds, it seems if he cant see what he is doing the darkness lulls him back to sleep after a little bit. I have been cutting his evening nap short or no evening nap at all and that seems to be helping.

Nova - posted on 10/18/2011

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No tips, no tricks, just patience. Toilet training is successful when executed consistently. For example, no drinking one hour before bed and toiletting before rest is extremely successful when one factors bed-wetting as a natural part of the process. Bed wetting will happen because children are getting accustomed to controlling large muscles and timing their urges. Frequent trips to the toilet with a favorite book has also proven successful. However, the true measure of moving from diapers to underwear is perseverance on the part of parents. Don't give up or give in. Your child's confidence & competence around mastering the skill of bladder control rests with consistent practices and TLC. Good luck.

Carly - posted on 10/18/2011

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i wouldnt worry about the pull ups issue my wee girl was still wearing them at 4.5 yrs.. they do everything when ready... i would cut your sons sleep during the days by 30 mins to see if that helps good luck ...

Tessa - posted on 10/18/2011

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My son is 5 and still in pull-ups, also. What are her habits during the day? My son was just diagnosed with a bladder problem and given medication to help, although he urinates frequently during the day. If that's the same with your daughter you may want to talk with your doctor. Otherwise I wouldn't worry too much, she'll outgrow it :)

Vanessa - posted on 10/18/2011

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Pull ups (known as a DIAPER) should be a big NO NO and is a waste of money. I can proudly say my daughter wears big girl undies to bed, she has accidents but the mattress is protected and the sheets go through the wash. I wake her up to pee multiple times a night. It's tiring but at least I can say she doesn't wear a diaper. Good luck.

Deborah - posted on 10/18/2011

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don't worry about your daughter she'll do it when she's ready but if you wanted check her pull up in the morning and if it's dry give good praise if not just say never mind we'll try again tonight did this with my daughter and after a week she decided she was abig girl and didn't want pull ups any more, just checking that you have tried not giving her a drink before bed and getting her to toilet before bed.
as for your son i feel your pain my youngest daughter was the same i tried everything but nothing worked even stopped naps in the afternoon and i'm sorry to say but she didn't sleep through the night until she was 18 months old only advice i can give you is if you can sleep when he sleeps { i know this isn't alwasys possible} and just try and get as much help as you can ie see if friends and family can babysit for a few hours while you get some sleep

Antoinette - posted on 10/18/2011

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Hello, it is rather tiring when you wake up every night! Babies learn new habits in no time. When he wakes up and cries, you can go into the dark room, tell him all is ok and that you are all going back to sleep. No lights, not much talking. Then go out. Stretch the intervals of going back into the room in 5 minute time spans. First time 5 minutes, second time 10 minutes etc. He must learn that there is no positive or negative reward for his behavior. Cut down on his sleep during the day and watch when he has dinner. Some foods tend to rather wake up than help to sleep. No bottles during the night, except water! Hope it helps! Good luck!

Danielle - posted on 10/18/2011

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is ur daughters pull up dry when she wakes up? my advice for this one is to jus go cold turkey. my son was about to turn three and he still refused to go in his underwear and wanted to wear a diaper. finally he got it down ( i used the whole sticker method i thought the sticker thing was a bunch of crap when finally i just said to myself, what the heck lets try it cuz nothing else was working and to my surprise it worked!) but the night time was a different story i still had to put him in a diaper but one night i ran out of diapers without realizing it and jus decided right then and there to jus stop and it worked. he had a couple of accidents but he got thru it. now i jus dont give him anything to drink before he goes to sleep and if he is thristy i make sure he goes to the bathroom after he is done even if he says he doesnt have to go. as for your 9 month old.. my son never slept thru the night until he was like almost 2 so dont feel bad. i just layed him next to me and made sure there was no way he could fall off the bed and gave him a toy and went back to sleep that was if he didnt want a bottle or had to be changed. i know that sounds cruel but he always eventually went back to sleep good luck! :)

Patricia - posted on 10/18/2011

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I wouldn't worry to much about your daughter. My Daughter is 7 and still in pull ups at night. Many Kids still wet the bed right into their teens. Concentrate on your 9 month olds sleep patterns. try to reduce the about of time he sleeps during the day and sticking with a routine does help. Hang it there it does get better you just have to figure out what works for you and your family.

Annette - posted on 10/17/2011

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my son is 4 in january and he is still in pull ups for bed, who cares, he uses the toilet through the day at nursery and doesnt have any accidents, but as a lady further down the page said who wants to be changing sheets at 3am, I would rater they had a full nights sleep than woke uo cos the bed is wet, dont worry about it, she will come up out of them when she is ready, and your son will settle my 5 kids all got up through the night till they were 3-4 years old, just talk to him gently and explain its night time, dont put the light on do everything in the dark and tell him its sleep time when the lights are off, he will soon learn, hope this helps, xx

Aileen - posted on 10/17/2011

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@Angel Tom: I found that telling and showing helped to get my little one into the habit of going to the toilet for a number 2. Take the baggage to the toilet bowl with your little one and SHOW her where the poop belongs and make a funny show of it. THey love to show how big they are at 3 and a half, so call her a big girl and shout jokingly at the poop while the two of you dump it into the toilet bowl. It also helps to have a special seat for the no. 2s. They are small and the bowl is big...

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How the hell does a 10 day old not die of malnutrition if they are sleeping 12-14 hours straight? Are they eating every 20 minutes all day long? Sheesh! Poor baby. :(

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I concur with all the moms who say don't worry about the 4 year old. Two of mine were dry at night pretty young but my oldest was a bedwetter. His nervous system was slow to mature in some areas. I tried waking him, but it just didn't work. Eventually, he outgrew it. He's a brilliant guy, has a good job and just celebrated his 2nd wedding anniversary. He turned out well. Some moms get lucky and have kids who train early and are dry at night early and give themselves credit for it. But they were just lucky.

Lori - posted on 10/17/2011

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Hi-
My 4 year old twins are in pullups overnight as well. A few friends have said that this can last until about 5 years old. My girls use the potty all day, but they do drink and snack shortly before bed and always awaken with a wet pullup. Sorry I don't have any concrete answers for you, but at least you're not alone! :)

Laurenc331 - posted on 10/17/2011

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Try not to give her drinks a few hours before bed, make sure she goes to the bathroom twice before she goes to bed, and if you have to, wake her up at say 2 or 3 and put her on the toilet and tell her to pee. Sometimes my daughter stays asleep on the toilet, but will pee to avoid an accident in her bed. and the play thing, my daughter did the same thing, its just a phase, id just keep the lights out and keep putting him back in bed, eventually it will stop or he will grow out of it. goodluck!

Roxanne - posted on 10/17/2011

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Mom of kids now in their 20's with a little advice. My daughter didn't stop with the pull ups until the age of 14. Don't freak... She was a really heavy sleeper. She would sleep through bed alarms and was pretty much sleeping when I would get her up at 11 PM (my bedtime) to pee. I did everything I could do to try to figure out how to help her including quizzing her pediatrician and reading any info I could find. Check family history to see if anyone was also a late bloomer with night training.
With the 7 month old, I wonder if you have introduced cereal and solids into his diet. Full belly babes seem to sleep much better,
Good luck!
Roxanne

Ann - posted on 10/17/2011

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Can only address the 4-year old daughter....2 of my children were bed wetter almost until they were 10 Y/O...my pediatrician diagnosed that the girls slept too deep & that meds were required as well as a regimen of waking them up, taking to potty, washing face & hands & back to bed...the first daughter required somewhat of a tranquilizer which brought her up from the deep sleep to a normal sleep. The second daughter was prescribed a nasal spray...after 4-6 weeks of following MD advice, they were cured....consult your pediatrician...treatments are always subject to change. Good luck.

Joanna - posted on 10/17/2011

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I agree don't worry about the pull ups, and using cloth or none at all won't make a difference. I wet the bed until I was 10, and nothing anyone did changed it. I am 40 and back then they didn't have pull ups or anything for older kids, and so I just wet the bed regularly. My Mom did have a waterproof pad on my bed. But it didn't always help, and I think she eventually just gave up on it. My grandmother would pin dishcloths on me when I stayed at her house, under my underwear. I finally outgrew it around age 10. My 6 year old is still in pullups at night. She has been potty trained for 4 years but some nights she still wets. I primarily use cloth on her, and occasionally I forget, and of course those are the nights she wets. But honestly there is nothing you can do to make her bladder mature faster. Waking her up at night to go to the bathroom may keep the accidents to a minimum, but could also cause sleep disturbances and sleep problems if continued. Let her sleep, and just use the pullups, or cloth ones if money is an issue. And as for the 9 month old, like others said it is likely a stage, a torturous one, but both my kids went through it and I thought both times it would never end, but it did. Definitely much quicker with my son than my daughter, who woke at night til she was 2.5. My son started sleeping again with in a few months. Hang in there, it really does get better.

Amy Michele - posted on 10/17/2011

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Dear Samantha, The women below are wise. Don't worry about the night time wets. They are nothing to be concerned of at this age. If anything, I would look into diapers at night, not pull ups. You'll save some money and get more per pack. My daughter is 3.5, 4 in January and still will wet from front to back at night. I never restricted my kids fluids or anything like that. They will get it soon enough and a diaper at bed is no big deal. Just make sure you put her on the potty right before bed and she'll get it soon enough. The baby, well; he is just that, a baby. Stay strong and let him be in his crib. he'll go back to sleep.
Good luck!

Mary - posted on 10/17/2011

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I am the mother of a 28 yr old son, 26 yr old daughter & almost 21 yr old daughter, a 5 1/2 yr old granddaughter & a 10 1/2 mo old granddaughter. I HATE Pull-ups !!!! They are just a diaper that pulls on !! Just like the new Huggies !!! I would have my kids start going pee often starting at dinner time. I would just keep sending them. Especially right before bed, then when I would go to bed I would get them & take them again. And as soon as they woke up in the morning I would take them ... (they still go like that today) LOL As for the midnight play session ... Oh Hell No !!!!! I never ever ever allowed my kids to play in the middle of the night !!! Once they got older (6 mo) they didn't get fed in the middle of the night .... If they woke up I would check their diaper clean if necessary, put them back in bed & walk out !!! They gotta know you mean it !! Bed time is bed time & they can only play when the sun is up ! You take care of the small needs & tell them night night. Tell them you will see them in the morning. If it their teeth or a cold, give them what they need & put them down. My kids always slept through the night from newborns. My 2 grands live with me & the oldest started sleeping 12-14 hrs from the time she was 10 days old. The other was 4 wks & started sleeping 10-12 hrs. She now naps 1-2 times a day. She is in bed by 7-8 pm. YOU have to parent you kids ... don't allow them to parent you !!! I have been caring for kids since I was 11 yrs old. I sound mean, I am just sooooooo frustrated with parents today. We need to put on our big girl panties & take over our kids. I love my kids more than anything, but I know what is right for them, they don't know how to care for themselves. I have to do it for them. You can do this ... it will end quick.

Kylie - posted on 10/17/2011

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Don't worry about the pull ups, when she is ready she it want them off, even have small talks about sleep overs and big girls, my sister in law was in such a hurry to push this and now she has a problem with her 13 year old boy in night naps, when they are ready! My bub did tge same also night play, she had the cot attached toy and would play and crash an hour or so later. We all worry so much about them, they will be great!

Rebecca - posted on 10/17/2011

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My daughter will be 4 this month and also still wears pullups at bedtime we have also tried everything her pediatrition said you cant do anything that their bladders and minds have to work together so bedtime training just has to happen on its own if she is still having a problem at 6 then I would be concerned but untill then its totally normal! As far as your son goes if he doesnt need changed or fed and simply just wants to play I suggest tucking him back in and letting him go back to bed. It will be tuff at first but eventually he will learn that bedtime is not play time!

Danielle - - posted on 10/17/2011

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I have a 5 year old still in night time diapers. Who cares? If you don't tell anyone, no one will know.

I'd rather sleep at night then get up and change sheets at 3 a.m. because of a potty accident.

There's bigger things to worry about than night time diapers. Your daughter will be fine - when her body is totally ready to hold it all night - you'll know and so will she.

As far as your 9 month old - he's still a baby. Kids will wake up all times throughout the night until they're much older. It's a phase that lots of babies go through - we can't all get kids who sleep thru the night from 2 months on. Trust me, this will pass.

Melanie - posted on 10/17/2011

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My daughter wore pull ups well past 4 years. I just found that it was easier for her to wear the pull ups instead of waking up in a wet bed and then having to come get me to change the sheets. We tried cutting out liquids early but it never worked, she just wasn't ready to go through the night. She eventually just started making it through the night. Every child develops at different rates and she just wasn't ready until she was ready.

Amy - posted on 10/17/2011

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I tend to agree with lots of postings here...don't worry about the pullups at night. My daughter was night-dry for about 9 months and then when she gave up her nap at age 4, she started wetting the bed again because she was just sleeping so much more deeply. She just turned 5 and i'm still not stressing about it. It'll start happening eventually, meanwhile, enjoy not having to do so much laundry :) As for the 9 month old son, if your not a fan of hte cry it out, the No-Cry Sleep Solution book may have an answer for you. Good luck.

Julie - posted on 10/17/2011

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The best help you can give your daughter to not need those pullups, is to stop trying so hard and stressing yourself out over it, just let it happen naturally.
Most children are still having night accidents at 4, some still at 5, and some still later on. A lot of parents might be telling the truth saying their babies were dry from 2 etc, but alot of those are also lying from embarassment. Try not to upset yourself, reward the dry nights, dont punish the wet nights, just treat them as the accident they are, its not done on purpose hence why we call it an accident. Try to comfort her if she is upset about it, but dont dwell on it. If you are still worried in a year or two, then look and see if there are medical reasons, or perhaps consider a hypnotist. This idea helped one of mine, very well. He was just sleeping way too heavily to wake up to the need to go. I remember it myself actually. I would dream I was sitting on a toilet and in the dream I got the relief. I can still even at 50 dream I am on the toilet, but the dream will wake me thankfully LOL

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DONT worry .My 4 nearly 5 year old granddaughter is in pull ups still.One night recently she went thru the night dry and then for 4 more nights.Then occasionally a litle damp.Dony worry or pressure her.It will happen

Michelle - posted on 10/17/2011

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my 4 year old son is still in pull ups - he is deperate not to be and can go for a week without an accident, but if he needs to wee in teh night just can't wake himself up and has settled for being happy in his pull ups rather than a wet bed. I aren't worried - he will grow out of it, most important thing is not to make your daughter fret over it - she can't help it.

Michelle - posted on 10/17/2011

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Hi Samantha
My son is 4 years old also, and he just started sleeping without his pull ups at his kinder. So my advice to you about that give her some time to realize that she doesn't need it anymore. Plus your second advice about your 7 month old son, yes he definitely wants to play it's because he wants ALL your attention to you. He think it's party time, my son was exactly the same and he still thinks that on the odd occasion. So don't worry he too will realize what he is doing is wrong, but just give that a lot of time because he is still too young to understand and that he just wants your attention.

Michelle - posted on 10/17/2011

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I have just recently put my 3 yr old back into pullups because I am tired of changing her sheets twice a day. She went through about a month where she stayed dried everynight, but is now wetting in the middle of the night as well as again which wakes her in the mornings. This has been going on for months, so its not like I havent tried for long enough. Her body just isnt ready yet to sleep all night and stay dry. She will sleep right through wetting her bed. I am the one who finds her sleeping in a wet bed in the middle of the night.

User - posted on 10/17/2011

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I'm in the same situation my 4 1/2 year old, she can go all day without an accident but at night she wears a pull-ups. Some nights she won't wet the pull-ups but other it's soaked in the morning. I've tried the cutting her drinks off at 6:30 or 7:00 at night didn't work. I've tried waking her up at 12:30 or 1:00 during the night which some night she would be dry and go but other time she would be wet already. I asked her doctor about it when she was 3 and he wasn't too concern. My oldest which there is a 10 year difference between the two never had this problem. So, I've come to the point where I don't worry about it.

Jennifer - posted on 10/17/2011

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i used to take my litttle one out of her bed durin the nite,,,,, and even asleep she used to go,,, i used to have her in knickers i had a plastic sheet thing on her bed to protect the bed,,,she was out of em in no time,,,,,,,,

Teresa - posted on 10/17/2011

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My two year old is out of diapers and was pooping in the potty at 6months. Pull-ups and diapers will only teach them to ignore going if you cant feel it you wont pay attention to it.

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