4yr old wont eat properly!!!!!!!!!!!

Rebecca - posted on 12/28/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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my 4 yr old wont eat properly all she wants to eat is bread and butter when her father is home she eats slightly better but still not enough she eats maybe 3 or 4 dessert spoons with her father but only 1 or 2 with me and then just refuses to eat any more i am beginning to get very concerned that she is going to be under weight and become ill how can i get her to neat more.

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Kate CP - posted on 12/30/2010

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Are you offering her full fat meats, cheeses, milk, yogurt, and butter? Give her smaller portions more frequently and see if that helps. She may just be a grazer.

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I wonder if she is sensing some anxiety from you and reacting to that. If she can see that you're worried about her eating, she may be refusing because it makes her worried, too. You had mentioned that she'll accept more food from her dad. Is there anything you can pick up from him?

Rebecca - posted on 12/30/2010

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well my husband is arab so the food i am preparing is extreme variety she is not a picky eater she just dont eat she eats everything and has from a very early age she eats things i used not to go near as a child carrots and olives are her favorite but i cant just give her those and also cant buy them all the time. when my youngest sees her leave her food she has started to get up and walk away. i dont want her to loose all her puppy fat. my 4yr feeds herself anyway. we got that sorted wen i was pregnant with my youngest. and my 4yr old will eat really well in my neighbours house and the food she makes is similar to mine i dont no wot the problem is. and i cant tell if she is losing weight as she has always been a very skinny baby but so is her father.my youngest will eat 3 bowlfulls every meal time. everytime i see the doctor he tells me she is a little underweight and could do with putting a little more on. but she has never had the problem of not eating before.

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When one of my daughters was 3yo, she was intimidated by any bowl of food. So I would set a small plate in front of her and put a couple of spoonfuls on it and let her feed herself. When those were gone I would add a little more. She would finish the bowlful, as long as she didn't see the whole thing.

If her weight isn't a concern to your doctor, then you're probably ok with just waiting this out, making a variety of foods available. With mine, there were weeks I couldn't get them to eat and weeks I couldn't get them to stop.

Momma - posted on 12/29/2010

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My daughter is the same way as far as not eating much in one meal. Like Jodi said some eat better with smaller meals. My daughter does. She usually eats 4 meals a day. Or if she's hungry but only want's a snack she gets veggies. Yes I'm lucky I don't have to fight her with that. I have also found that when I give my daughter very little on her plate she will eat more. A lot of kids feel over whelmed when they have a lot of food sitting in front of them and they tend to want to walk away from it. Hope some of this helps. Good luck

Jodi - posted on 12/29/2010

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There is also no need to cut out morning or afternoon tea. Some kids are grazers, they prefer 4-5 small meals a day to 3 large meals. In fact, studies have shown that more snacks spread throughout the day is better for their metabolism and also for their concentration and energy levels. If you do have a picky eater, you just need to make sure that the options you are offering are healthy and provide a balance of nutrients.

Jodi - posted on 12/29/2010

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I must admit, when I read that she will eat 3 or 4 dessert spoons with her father and only 1 or 2 with you, I am also questioning what it is you are feeding her..... What sort of foods are you offering?

Vanessa - posted on 12/28/2010

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Cut out morning and afternoon tea..... hungry tummies eat more!
At 4yrs old she can answer questions such as "does it hurt to swallow?" etc. see if she'll tell you what the reason is --- could be physical or even a power play as its the only thing she has control over in her life. Maybe give her more choices in other areas and eating may improve.

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