5 Months pregnant and father wants to terminate his rights

Tanya - posted on 07/25/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hi! I am 5 months pregnant with my fourth baby. The father and I dated for about 5 months, planned to get married, he met my other children, etc. Then, all of a sudden, this isn't what he wants, and he breaks it off. I have been a single mom for 5.5 years, and I have an excellent job, support system, etc. I know I can raise her by myself...However, I am seeing the effects of the lack of my ex husbands presence on my oldest daughter is having, ie..seeking extra male attention from coaches, camp counselors, and I am TERRIFIED, of how and what to tell my soon to be completely abandoned daughter when she asks where her daddy is. Oh, and today, I just found out that he lied to me again, and has ANOTHER daughter that I didn't know about. My daughter is number 6 (that I know of)!!! Also, legal advice: I will not let him off the hook regarding child support. Is it possible to terminate the father's rights, and still receive support? We live in Georgia, and no, I am not related to Honey Boo Boo, as bad as this situation sounds. Any advice is so appreciated!!! Thank you so much!!!


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Kristi - posted on 07/25/2013




I don't think you can terminate his rights and still collect support. I know that's the law in NE and I'm fairly certain it's pretty standard but I would still check with a family court lawyer in GA just to be sure. But, visitation and support are also two separate issues that don't relate to one another, even though sometimes theey seem to.

It is best if a child can have both parents be positively involved in their lives. Unfortunately, that's not always the case. IMO, it's better to have "secondary" positive role models than a sucky, piece of shit one. But, that's just my opinion and I'm basically referring to (any)abusive types of situations. I wouldn't worry about what to tell your unborn child about her father at this point. It's a waste of time and energy that could better be used elsewhere and more productively.

Many lawyers offer a free consultation. Make a list of questions and give a couple of them a call. They'll be able to tell you your options and likely outcomes. You can go ahead and start making a plan. Trust me when I say, doing nothing is not an option.

Ev - posted on 07/25/2013




As far as his other child or children, I do not know what to tell you to do about that but do go for child support and I have heard in some states that even if the parent's rights are terminated no matter the reasons they are not off the hook for support of the child. You just need to find a lawyer and see what the state you live in has laws on child support, custody, visitation, and termination of rights of the father.

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