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Well I married my husband almost 6 years ago, 2 years into the relationship was hell, he had his 5 kids every weekend starting at 6 pm on friday it was always about where they want to go and do and they never agreed on anything he never tells them off and if he does he would do it the wrong way and hell would break loose i always tried to calm things down i have never being nasty to them i've always cooked for them and did the washing and the cleaning through out the weekend.
the worst thing was sleeping with his 6 year old in bed with us it was so uncomfortable and i told him but he continued and i felt too guilty to make him remove his son from the bedroom would always spend half of the night on a small sofa
my biggest regret is was allowing my husband to put his youngest son in our bed on the first night i moved in with him.
4 years ago his older daughter who was 16 back then was acting out because she ordered the wrong dress for prom and could not find another one in time so she was in a bad mood and when she was told to sleep in different room she started swearing and screaming and it was all dramatical when her dad decided to take her mobile off her for being rude she went mad because she didn't want him to see all the text that she sends to her mum about getting as much money as possible from dad so she ran outside and rang her mum and her mum rang the police and told them her ex attacked their daughter they somehow convinced his second oldest child to go along with it and it made him a witness which meant my husband got arrested.
we got dragged trough court and he was found not guilty after 16 months his 2 eldest stood in court and tried to put his in prison, now that he is back seeing the 3 younger kids they have being coming more and more often and recently even the older boy who stood against his dad in court is coming to visit for the last 3 weeks and surprise surprise he needs help with rent in uni and money which his dad said yes to.
I am no longer as evolved with his kids as i used to be i invested a lot in those kids and the only thing i got is a testimony in court that i am not a bad stepmum, all those hours i spent cleaning and cooking and catering for those kids and all i get is not bad mind you i'm not 35 years old or 40 i was only 18 when i married i needed someone to look after me and take me places that i wanted to go to.
Long story short now the only thing that i am asking of him is that they get a weekend and i get one is this fair or am i being a bitch, he thinks its not fair and he should spend more time with them to make up for the lost time as if its my fault his daughter sued him who would give me my lost time am i not to have 2 weekends in a month with my husband to do with as i please in peace i dont want to have kids of my own just so i can have a life why should i wast it on an other women's kids while she is in the arms of her boyfriend considering she wanted a lot of kids in her life not me.