5 year old is a very picky eater

Aereil Seilae - posted on 07/11/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My son lives has a very limited number of foods in his diet but lately he's trying to completely live off junk food. Literally! I put my foot down 👇 but when he leaves for his weekly visits every bit of my rules for no junk food or sugars are gone. So he is literally trying to starve himself until he gets his way. Help!

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Aereil Seilae - posted on 07/15/2015

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I know I can't change the way anything is done or what's being fed to him at his grandmothers house (his dads ) but I guess I just also seem to being living n a false reality still try to be grown up and believe that as adults we should be able to co parent together whether it b with his gma or his dad when he is out of prison in Aug. I spread know my kid will b testing me n his dad then to see how much he can get away with I always stick to my rules still n my sons many therapist all say even if he does treat mommy the same as his dad or gma as far as almost always being wanting to b at mine n his home goes they say but my son knows no matter what mommy will b stable n he can always trust the fact that mommy is not ever going to b leaving him there for he loves me but trusts in our bond and even thou mommy is the only rule maker or only person to give him boundaries I just wish for once I was able to feel like I didn't have to b the mean parent (structured) I miss my baby needing me like he does his daddy...

Jodi - posted on 07/15/2015

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You will drive yourself mad if you focus on what he is getting in his father's home. You can't control that, and feeling out of control BECAUSE you can't control it is not going to do anyone any good. You need to just let go and focus on consistency in your home. He will eventually "get it". He won't starve himself forever, I assure you. He's a growing boy.

Just out of interest, does he get rewarded for eating right in your home? A small reward for eating his dinner wouldn't be harmful.

Sandee - posted on 07/15/2015

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Dove - posted on 07/11/2015

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Your son will learn that you mean what you say as long as you stay consistent in your home. Unfortunately you have no say in his father's home and if you are providing detailed lists for his father... his father could be loading him up on junk just to spite you for trying to be controlling (I don't know... but I could imagine my ex doing something like that).

Yes, full consistency is 'best' for kids, but many, many kids grow up in split homes w/ two very different routines... they adjust.

Aereil Seilae - posted on 07/11/2015

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That's the thing thou I provided a detailed description of our days at home because its important that routine is kkept for stability n my kids life but it also included a detailed description and Lia of foods that I prepare for him n I would really appreciate it to go both ways I know I can't force them to do it but dang my poor baby trys to starve his lil self just to get candy or tea its so grrrr

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/11/2015

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So I'm taking it that this is a split custody situation?
You cannot change what is being served at his father's home. You can only be consistent in your own.
Patience is key here. That, and consistency. I know it's hard, but stay the course.

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