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My son started Kindergarten this year and over the past few months he has been coming home with stories of being hit, pushed, kicked etc, at school. I have done some soft encouraging to deal with the situations and left it at that - assuming that kindergarten is a a huge time to learn social interactions for all children and that teachers would help assist children in learning appropriate play/behaviours and how to deal with situations when they arise. It's been about 3 months now and my son is still coming home telling me about the mean things kids did to him at school that day. I have talked with his teacher who assures me my son is getting along well with other children and has appropriate play and self regulating skills. There is one child whose name comes up again and again in regards to hitting and "mean" behaviours but when asked about the teacher says that the boys don't have any issues with each other. Yesterday my son came home with a cut up nose from the other child. Apparently this other boy hit him in the face multiple times with a toy car (for no reason) - which resulted in my son crying and having to go the office to make sure his injuries weren't more than just a cut. I did bring this up to the teacher who informed me that the boys seemed to be friendly with each other after this incident and that he wasn't too concerned. But today my son came home and told me that this same boy pushed him into another child today - which resulted in her pushing my son back towards a third child who then hit my son in the head with a lunch box.
In the past my son has said that he has ran away when someone hits him, and lately it seems like he cries when he is hit. He is fairly sensitive but I don't think that it is just him being overly sensitive about every situation.
I would like to be able to give my son some tools to deal with situations like this. I am not going around saying my son is being bullied because is it really bullying in kindergarten vs learning what is acceptable and what is not? But I don't want him to be seen as someone who is an easy target in the future to be bullied. I want him to be a confident and strong individual who doesn't have to get hit/pushed whatever on a daily basis at school....