Becky - posted on 09/22/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
Let me just start off by saying he is not my biological son, he is adopted. His mother is my fiancee's sister, and well, she has some problems of her own. She was a young mother (I believe she was only 17 when she got pregnant with him) and has since then had 4 other children by 4 other men. (she has lost all of them but 2 to the state - we also adopted her oldest daughter to keep them in the family). She does not call or try to really even come see him, even when we have left the door open for her to do so. When he first started living with us he used to ask about her occasionally, but now it is a non-issue. He never mentions her.
This year he started kindergarten (he did not go to pre-k because of his living situation - hes been from home to home (moms, grandpas..etc) with no stability which I'm sure is a problem as well, but hes been with us for about a year now) At the beginning of the year he was doing incredible, coming home with green clippys every single day (clippys = colored pieces of paper that rate how he behaved at school - green being good black being worst and everything in between.) In the last month or so, he has started acting up horribly at school, hitting, talking constantly, writing on the floor, and Friday he decided to pull his pants down in front of little girls and show them his...business. The vice principal called me yesterday and now wants to have a meeting to "evaluate whether or not he should be in the classroom" I am very worried about this. He is very smart, and picks up things very easily, but I am worried he has mental problems (ADHD - skitzophrenia - or something) because when asked here at home and at school he gives the same answer - his brain tells him to do it, and there are bugs crawling around in there telling him to do bad stuff.
Does anyone have any suggestions? We have thought about counseling but I'm not sure that would do any good. I'm even starting to think maybe we should have him tested but I dont even know how or where we would go to have that done.