CO Mama Of 3 - posted on 10/09/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )
I'm new to this forum and decided to become a member because I really need unbiased opinions regarding my children's behavior. I have 5 year old twins that started kindergarten this year, and a 7 year old in 2nd grade. They go to a phenomenal school that has been working very closely with us due to the twins' behavior issues; however, they will not tell us what they think could be wrong because of legality issues (so I'm being told at least), so I really need help. The twins are in separate classrooms, but both seemingly have the same struggle.....authority. They have absolutely no respect when they're asked to do something and throw major fits to the point of being written up. School started mid-August and one twin has been written up twice, the other three times. I'm planning to make arrangements to get them to a therapist as soon as possible, but need some idea as to what we're dealing with and what to do about it until we can make that happen. They've also been physically violent to one another, including my seven year old at home. They come from a very loving and happy home. My husband and I rarely argue and NEVER argue in front of them. We've tried time outs, reasoning with them, and yes, as much as I hate to say it, we've resulted to spanking under very extreme and very rare circumstances. We literally don't know what else to try nor do we have any idea what is causing this....we raised our seven year old the exact same way and she's pretty much an angel. Where did we go wrong and what do we do now? I'm begging from the bottom of my heart for some help and new ideas so that we can get back to a point when we can enjoy our time together and I don't spend every second on pins and needles during school hours in fear of that dreaded phone call from the school with another behavior write up and we can stop walking on eggshells around them at home. They've started to control us and I'm slowly becoming unraveled. Can anybody please help?