Christina - posted on 11/30/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
My Stepson spends 3-4 days out of the week with me and my boyfriend and whenever its time to go to bed all HELL breaks loose. After work I cook dinner and me and my boyfriend like to relax and watch a tv show or two. We only have one tv in the house so we watch tv in the living room and I put the laptop in the room with my SS to watch some cartoon on netflix and play with his toys in the room. Around 8:30pm I tell him that its almost time for bed and that we'll have to turn off the cartoons soon.
At about nine I tell him lights out and turn off all the lights in the room and tell him to put his toys away and lay down for bed and watch the movie he is watching. My bf usually backs me up but just chimes in "YES TIME FOR BED " or "LISTEN TO CHRISTINA." As soon as I turn off the lights though he FREAKS OUT and starts wailing, when I leave the room he turns on all the lights again and sits and plays with his toys still. Every 10 mins he comes out the rooms saying "Can I give my dad a hug?" "I love you" or "I need to tell you something." I tell him over and over again, love you too now please lay down, or not now its time for bed, please lay down, etc. When I finally tell him that's enough and I'm turning off the movie because he abused his privilege and did not lay down for bed he proceeds to SCREAM like he is being murder.
When I mean scream, I mean he throws him self around, tells us he hates us, to take him home to his mom (who we can never reach and sometimes she doesn't call for days), he'll run outside of the room and say that hes going to sleep in the living room and literally shrieks that he will not go to bed and he is gonna watch tv.
I know that me putting him down for bed with a movie is somewhat enabling him... however during the whole day that is the only time we can get away from him to relax and plus the movies he watches aren't completely useless, he is really fond of dinosaur documentaries and animal shows! He is perfectly fine up until the minute I turn off the movies to go to bed. If he falls asleep with the movie he is fine, if he isnt asleep before the movie ends he wants another and he will stay up ALL NIGHT SOMETIME UNTIL 2 AM until he goes to sleep!! My boyfriend barely helps, he'll chime in but usually when the screaming gets too loud my boyfriend will go into the living room and watch tv with him until he falls asleep sometimes staying with him until very late...
How can I tell him enough is enough without totally cutting off tv from him or having him through a fit! Im afraid he screams so loud that our neighbors will call the cops or think were abusing him!!