5 yr old with adhd. Doctor prescribed him with adderall 5mg extended release

Christopher - posted on 09/19/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have a problem. I have a 5 yr old son who has been diagnosed with with ADHD. He has behavioral problems at times and I try to punish him. He always wants to press your luck. He is a good kid though, he does his homework but he doesn't focus at times. And when I look in this folder I see bad marks like talking or not listening in class,

Should I put my son on Adderall? My wife and I talked about it and we think we shouldn't cause he will be dependent on it and the side affects after it wears off. I am stuck and I don't know what to do. I get frustrated at times too and it doesn't help the situation. Are there programs out there that can help him without taking medication? What can I do as a father to help him?

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Ev - posted on 09/19/2014

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I know its a scary thing here. But you have to realize that your son, and pardon me for saying so, is not like everyone else. His learning style, ability to learn and focus, and how he recieves and retains that learning and information are all different. No one wants their kid in the special classes or resource classes. But this comes from a mom whose son is still getting some help from it. He is 17 and a senior. He got help from resource classes since the first grade. At that time, he did not have the skills or understanding of the materials he had to learn. Those classes are set up to help all kids with learning problems to learn how to deal with that and to find a way to learn the material that best works for them. Schools anymore are cookie cutter in the way they teach. One way of teaching for all. And each child is different. No one child learns the same though most can handle the one size fits all routine. Because of this resource classes, he has become a B average student planning to attend a tech school next fall to become a mechanic. And he has an Autism disorder that he was diagnosed with at age 11. He is high functioning to the point no one would know he had it. So do not for the sake of your son exclude the special classes if they can help him learn the skills he needs to succeed in school.

I know you do not want to medicate your son unless its a last resort. I would not want to do that either. But in the long run, you need to do what is best for your child even if it means the medication. Just be strong. Keep your head up. There are a lot of children out there who have the same issues as your son, Autism, ADD, and other learning disabilities that use those resource classes. My sister had a learning disability. She read things backwards, wrote the letters backwards and started right to left instead of left to right. She is also left handed and a lot of things came harder for her at times. The school we attended wanted our parents to place her in second grade anyway and to take those special classes. My parents wanted her to repeat first grade. The school fought them on it. We moved. When we started the new school year in a new state, my parents enrolled her as a first grader instead of a second grader. She did wonderfully. She became a straight A student by high school. And as she grew older, her left hand worked better than my right hand did. She still can do things better with her left hand than I can with my right. I am not sure that has much to do with it but for her it did to a point. My son is also left handed and that gave him some issues too that he overcame. So there is hope even with those special classes.

Christopher - posted on 09/19/2014

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Thank you for your reply. I have spent most of the day so far looking at other methods and watching videos with parents who have kids that are ADHD. I don't want him on Adderall right now. My wife is ADD and she takes Adderall and I have seen the side affects of not being on it. It really scares me cause I don't want him to end up being in special classes, I want him to be like everyone else.

With his behavior though it really frustrates me, and I look back and I think of my self as a bad father.
Adderall will be the last resort.

Ev - posted on 09/19/2014

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That is something you should have asked your doctor when you found out the diagnosis. The doctor should be able to put you in touch with other services or resources in your area to get the help you need for your son. Also, you need to get the school on board as well. They need to know what steps you have taken with this and are taking over the rest of his school years to help him learn to control his behavior, focus on his school work, and do it in such a way that it does not bring him down. They need to help you come up with a plan that is set up just for him and is implemented in the classrooms he will be in so the teachers know what sorts of ways his behavior is to be handled, how to approach the problems. The school councilor should also be on board to have meetings with your son while at school so she could help him too with his behavior, frustrations, and other things. The principal needs to be aware that his behaviors are not because he is being bad or pushing buttons but that he has a learning issue. After trying other methods to help with his problems with ADHD and they do not work, then you may have to medicate him anyway. My friend has a son who is 17 now. He is on that particular medication. If it had not been for that medicine, he would not be where he is today; he has high grades in school and is doing well in other areas. He takes a pill in the AM and it helps him to concentrate through the day and to do homework. It wares off by evening. When he is not on it he has a bad attitude and he knows it. One day he forgot to take his meds and learned first hand as a teen that without it his day was awful. He had fought so long about having to take it but after that incident he was fine with taking because he could tell how much it helped with focus and distractions. I know the side affects are awful and can create lifetime changes, but some people just have no other choice. I hope you can find the help and resources to work on those behaviors without the meds. But keep in mind that if none of that works, meds might be the only way. And if he is monitered well, takes the meds as he should, and is continually checked on periodically by his doctor it should not be a big problem.

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