Kylie - posted on 07/22/2016 ( 13 moms have responded )
If you read my other questions before this you will know whats going on. Basically Dad was not there for My daughters birth. Got a new GF when i was 3 months pregnant and didn't even tell her he was expecting a child. She found out on her own when i was 6 months. He didn't tell his folks till a month before i gave birth. Since our daughter has been born, I have never denied him when he wants to see her. We have a set schedule where he has her every other weekend and 2 days a week (since he is a cop his schedule is shifty so he watches her on the two days he has off while i work for 12 hours) so, we don't have to pay for day care. I work 40 hours a week with a flex day and my mom watches her the other 2 days a week. He has since missed multiple days of his where i have had to call in to work and cover. He tells me he is working and cant have her when i offer him more time only to find out he is lying and with his GF. He doesn't come to doc appointments and doesn't communicate with me with more than a "ok" or "sounds good*. When our daughter is with him he will not send me updates or little videos or anything! He has had her 3 overnights since she has been born. He is extremely immature and nasty towards me as well. He has not filed to get his name on the BC or carries her on his insurance...even though i have printed out the forms for him to do so. He is extremely Lazy, i even created a email address for him so he could use the APP i had for a parenting schedule cause he wouldn't do it himself.! I have basically spoon fed him! Well a month ago he failed to tell me he was going on vacation and i had to call into work again 10 hours before cause he wouldn't be home. He went gambling with his GF 4 hours away. SO at the point i said screw it and i filed for child support. He started paying me 250 a month (what we agreed too cause i didn't know any better and even that was a hassel to get out of him) I went to my court yesterday and filed for physical custody and then allowed joint legal custody. I told them i wanted to keep the schedule we have and just let him have her the recommended 83 overnights a year which is roughly 2 per week. SO i offered him more time with her but, since he knows his support is now going to go up he is going to fight this and take me to court for 50/50 custody. NOW before everyone calls me greedy and what not for denying a father 50/50 when he wants it, I don't have a problem with 50/50 when they are OLDER. She is 6 months old AND he wants a week on and a week off. I DO NOT want to be away from my baby for a full week at 6 months old! Nor do i think its a good think for him to be away from her for a full week! I also know they only reason he is doing this is because he doesn't want to pay me. If he really wanted 50/50 he would put his name on her BC and filed a long time ago! My questions is...i Live in Michigan. The county we would go to for court is unfortunately the county he is a deputy in..has anyone had a experience of week on week off with such a young child??? will a court grant him that???