Leah - posted on 03/25/2015 ( 22 moms have responded )
I am writing here because I am at a complete loss as to what to do about this situation. My 5 yr old son is in his 7th week of Kindergarten and he has run away from school 3 times!! I am so scared for his safety :( The school has implemented some pretty harsh consequences the first two times to try and make him see that this is not ok and nothing seems to be helping. The first time he did it he had to miss out on the school swimming carnival, the second time it happened he had an in school suspension which included no outside play.
This last time the police were driving past and saw him running in the road, he ran from the police and wouldn't answer their question, when talking to his teachers about what had happened he actually seemed quite proud of what he had done, boasting that he had got further this time.
His teachers and I and other family members and now the police have all explained to him about safety and the many things that go wrong when you leave the school grounds without permission.
I'm so scared that something dreadful is going to happen to him.
The school have said they will try and be extra vigilant about closing gates around the school, however the school can never be completely closed and it doesn't stop parents who enter and exit the school leaving those gates open. I have to find a way to make him understand that he can't do this anymore.
After this last time he and I have made a deal (we shook on it) that he mustn't leave the school grounds without permission and that if he does then he will have to collect his schoolwork everyday and then stay at home and do it where I can keep him safe.
my husband (who is currently away for 6 mths) suggested I try and scare him with the thought that if he doesn't stay safe at school then the police won't let him live with us anymore if we can't keep him safe. The problem I see with both these "consequences" is that they are a bluff really.
The things that set him off seem to differ every time. This last time it wasn't even something major, his teacher asked him to paste a picture in his scrapbook, he got upset that he hadn't finished the picture and that was it he wouldn't be reasoned with and he left.
His principal has said that education wise he is really very smart and quite with it. and for the most part he is doing very well and enjoying school. I don't know what to do please help me