6 year old can't have a conversation

Chantal - posted on 09/02/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I need advice badly on what to do. My six year old who has adhd not any medication cannot hold a normal conversation if my life ddepended on it. He walks away or interrupts with some rrandom topic. It's very important for us to talk with his school changes and he just won't. Help!!

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Liz - posted on 09/03/2014

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I recommend asking him, "honey, what did I just say to you?" And redirecting him back to what is going on. Like, "Ok honey, that's really great, but were talking about your teacher right now." I tell my medicated 6 yr old, try to look for clues in the classroom, before talking, what is everybody else doing?. I would prefer he not be medicated, but it was not right he was getting in trouble for talking or not focusing, when he had no control over that. Sometimes it is hard to be patient, when a child is on his own program!!! We are working hard on interrupting, but his mind is going a mile a minute!

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Guest - posted on 09/04/2014

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That is good! I am glad that you are going to get a comprehensive diagnosis before jumping on the meds bandwagon. Don't get me wrong, meds have their place and can be very beneficial when properly prescribed and managed, but they are often over prescribed, or prescribed too early in the diagnostic process.

Once you begin the cognitive therapy you will see a definite improvement. Is not being able to hold a conversation his only symptom or just the one you are having the most trouble with?
This is something that helps a lot of children and adults with ADHD focus on spoken words.
Allow him to draw or doodle while you speak to him. I know it sounds counter productive, but in the ADHD mind, if there is no physical outlet for the energy, the mind will wonder--THERE IS NOTHING A PERSON WITH ADHD CAN DO ABOUT THIS!!! No matter how hard they try, their mind WILL ALWAYS get away from them. It hurts, it makes us feel like failures, and it is indescribably frustrating, not only for the people around us, but for us too. If we can do something with our hands that doesn't require much mental thought or focus, that is just enough to expel that energy so that we can listen. A person with a normal brain will become distracted by the drawing, a person with ADHD will not, it will have the opposite effect and allow us to focus our mental energy in one place and physical energy in another.

Chantal - posted on 09/03/2014

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Liz that's a great idea. I will try that next time it happens again :)

He has just been referred and we are waiting to hear back from the clinic for cognitie therapy. And i think that since his first day of grade 1 is today and he cant focus, then medication might be explored

Guest - posted on 09/03/2014

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You mentioned that he is diagnosed with ADHD but is not on any medication.
Is he currently being treated with cognitive behavioral therapies? If not, how is the ADHD being addressed and treated?

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