6 year old is feeling anxious and guilty for kissing 2 boys a year ago in kindergarten

Momee - posted on 12/31/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 6 years old. A few days ago she was having a panic attack when confessing she kissed 2 boys when she was 5 in kindergarten...........this came out if no where when I was tucking her and her little sister in bed.
She was crying and shaking and she kept saying it's all her fault.
She also said it has been bothering her for a long time.
I comforted her and reassured her that I wasn't mad at her (which I think she was worried about) I hugged and kissed and tried my best to calm her down and reminded her that stuff like that is for grownups and not kids.......

Since then (it's been a week since that night) she has brought it up a couple more times saying I just can't stop thinking about it and being upset with herself. I made sure to ask questions to make sure exactly what happened but she kept saying it was her idea......

Should I be concerned that she is keeping something from me? I'm concerned because she is letting it bother her instead of forgetting about it after I reassured her that it's ok and I wasn't mad at her....

To be 100% honest I'm so surprised and ya I wish it didn't happen.......I've always told my girls that kisses are only for family and only on the cheek.


I have anxiety so I panicked when I seen her taking it so hard because I could feel her anxiety....

Any thoughts? Thanks

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Joanne - posted on 01/10/2014

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My son was 6 years old when he was "kissing and hugging" his friends in school. It was a Catholic school and they were not happy. Something was said to him or done to him to make him extremely anxious about kissing. He will not allow us, as his parents, or any family members even kiss him on the cheek. He cries when he hears the sound of kissing. The school would not tell us what happened and how he was reprimanded. It's a shame that what was supposed to be a caring, nurturing and loving environment created such an awful anxiety. We don't know how to deal with it. We don't want it to affect the rest of his life:(
Any thoughts?

Momee - posted on 12/31/2013

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JUst to add: she said she kissed each boy once on the mouth. All the boys in her class liked her as I heard through the moms and teachers.........they almost would never leave her alone, it kinda bothered me actually...

I'm very surprised at her though......I'm starting to get anxiety over the fact that she kissed these 2 boys and as well that she is having anxiety issues as u have struggled with it and don't want that got her.

We are a loving family and don't use guilt on our kids, so I am worried as to why it is affecting her so much and why now

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