6 year old son meeting his biological father for the first time tomorrow, and I dont know how to tell him that the man that has been raising him is not his biological father, plz help. any suggestions on how to go about this?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/10/2015

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I don't understand why women cannot be honest with their children. Age appropriate explanations can be done.

At any rate, tell him that he is going to meet the man who helped you make him, and that he will be loved and cherished just as he is with you. Why the man decided to get involved really doesn't matter. What matters is that he wants to be involved, and has every right to be. I'm glad you aren't fighting that. However, you do need to get paternity proven, and support/visitation orders in place for the protection of all involved.

Valeria - posted on 04/10/2015

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I would say, you decide where and when he will meet your son on your terms. Maybe you your husband meet with him to go over how this situation will take place. To prepare yourself and him of how to let the child know with ease. I also think that you should tell the child first to see his reaction, he might want to meet him as he may not. Let your child contribute to this meeting happening. is my opinion

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Trisha - posted on 04/10/2015

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The child does not have the option to say no when a biological parent is involved. If the father wants to be involved, he has a right to it. If the mother appears to refuse it for whatever reason the father could take her to court.

Trisha - posted on 04/10/2015

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My guess is that he met a woman who likes kids, who made him think about what he left behind so he feels guilty for abandoning his child.

I don't know how you should deal with this, but I think the way I would handle it is have both you and the man your son knows as dad meet with this man for coffee.

Introduce him as his father, spend some time playing at a park together. Make sure you use different terminology than you use with the man he sees as his father. If he calls this man "Dad" use "father". It will make it less confusing and upsetting for him. Answer any questions he has, and maybe make plans to do it again. Start off slow.

I COULD totally be off with this...but I think it is how I would handle it.

Crystal - posted on 04/10/2015

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The biological father didnt want to have anything to do with me or my unborn child when I told him I was pregnant, and now he wants to be a part of his life.

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