Ariana - posted on 09/24/2013




That's not a ton of information. Has the teacher said this? Are you looking for help in the school?

If he needs extra help in the school it's best to talk to his teacher about it and see what type of resources they have available, or to find a plan that you and the teacher can work on.

Sometimes getting a tutor can help a lot for concentration, if you explain to them the issue.

Concentration/focusing is a skill that can be developed. Is it possible to have your son work on things at home? Find out where his concentration level/work level is right now and try to build on it step-by-step.

I know with my son he has difficulty with writing/reading, but instead of trying to get him to do a whole bunch (where he will get frustrated) I work with him every day and get him to do manageable tasks. So he will read 1, or 2, simple books, if a book is harder he'll only do one. At first I tried to get him to do multiple ones to try to catch up but it just puts to much pressure on him. Same with writing, he still can only really do one page of letters at a time as he has difficulty with it. Some days he'll breeze through it easily and other days one page seems like the most difficult thing ever for him.

Consistency and practice every day will help. My son initially resisted a routine of doing work but once he realized that 1 - he would only be required to do what he was able to do not more and 2 - when I asked him to do it he was expected to do it he was better able to work on things consistently.

Also pairing the hard work with something fun is always a good idea. Saying, once you finish working on this worksheet, or once you've worked for 10 minutes straight you can watch a show (or some other special thing if you don't let your kids watch tv). My son is always more ready to do his work if I let him know that once he's done he can watch one of his shows.

Oh and try to make some of it fun if you can and never push him to do more than he's capable. It's better for him to be successful at completely one worksheet than for you to force him to do more and have him hate it.

Of course the first few times you may need to adjust the level at which he can do things and you may have to force him to do it initially as some children (like mine) are more resistant to doing things they aren't naturally good at.

A tutor can be very helpful in that sometimes kids respond better to special attention from someone outside of their normal daily life (teachers/parents). Even if it's an older family member who can help him once a week it can make a huge difference.

Sorry that's so long! Hope some of that helps! Also if you read to a child every day (which you might already but still) if you can read to them every day that also helps with concentration/focus in that they have to sit still and listen to the story. Once again having fun and making learning fun is always the major goal. Try to always make things as fun as possible while also realizing that focusing is a skill that you can work on as long as you build it step-by-step and use lots of positive reinforcement (always make 3 positive comments beside any negative comment you may have to make). My son always responds better when I tell him what a great worker he is, and how this letter a looks just right, rather than me trying to point out that half his letters aren't in the right spot.

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