6th Grade Camp..to go? or not to go?

Angela - posted on 01/16/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I have a question..My 11 yr old boy brought me sign up papers for 6th grade camp but was upset because he was not sure if he wanted to go. His sister went last year and had a blast but the problem is they get no communication from there parents except for an email in the middle of their week there and that does not make him comfortable. He has always been very close to me and he struggled with tears in his eyes when he finally made his decision to not go. I told him ok but I'm not sure if that was the right thing to do. Should I of encouraged him and told him he would be fine? or did I make the right choice in letting him make his own decision? I don't want him to miss this opportunity and he already gets alot of slack for being the "Mama's boy" but I don't want him uncomfortable and sad while he is there...what do you think??

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Tina - posted on 11/18/2013

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I had the same issues with my little girl. What I did was first get over my own hesitation by going with her up to the 45 minute away camp a few weeks early and take a tour with the camp director. This made it a little less foreign to us both. I also promised her, with the director present, that she could call me once and that I could come get her if it was too hard. Then I comforted her with a promise to visit on parents day and I loaded her backpack with prepaid post cards addressed to home (she and I done this together) and promised emails daily. She was afraid of the dark and I made sure she was camping with a flashlight in her back pack.
Since my husband worked out-of-town that week, I missed her dearly but realized it was something we both needed. She had an experience she will never forget. She only called home once to tell me how great it was and that I shouldn’t worry, she would be home soon. Okay, okay....The phone call was a little teary and I did a little encouraging before she told me not to worry. It was more like a little reverse physiology. When she found out I missed her too, she was a little relieved. We had a reunion not to be forgotten.

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Sharon - posted on 01/16/2010

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All you can do is encourage independence. You can't force it on him.



You can force small, short breaks of independence on him. Dropping him off at a birthday party or a weekend sleepover is a start.



If he's already doing those things, then try to find situations that last a little longer.



Time away with the grandparents is a good one. Its how my kids got their start in independence from me.



Good luck.

Angela - posted on 01/16/2010

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You can send a letter the day they leave so they get it the 2nd day then you can email on the weds but that is it. I did bring it up again and he said that he was going to stay and he already told his other friend that he wasn't going so they could stay behind together :(
I don't want him to be discouraged from events like this but I dont want to have him go and it be a nightmare for him.

Krista - posted on 01/16/2010

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I would ask him again, and say that you can put a nice long, encouraging letter to him in his bag, for him to read anytime he starts missing you. It might even be worthwhile contacting the camp and expressing your concerns -- would they allow you to put a bunch of post-dated letters to him in his bag?

Stephanie - posted on 01/16/2010

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if i were you i would bring it up again just to make sure. and if he says he doesnt want to go then i wouldnt worry about it. good luck.

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