7-kids-19m-16f-3f-3f-3f the kids are mine what should my boyfriend pay?
â« Shawnn âªâ«â« - posted on 03/06/2014
Ok, if THAT is the case (and tyvm jodi for the info)
The boyfriend is NOT responsible for children borne to other men. If boyfriend feels generous, and can afford to do so, it is a nice gesture for him to pick up some of the tab for the kids that aren't his, but its not required, nor should it be expected.
If gf wants to have multiple children, by multiple men, then those men need to support those children, not the current bf who has no responsibility towards them, nor for their creation.
If bf & gf are sharing accommodations, he pays for 'his' share. Not necessary to pony up more for her kids expenses, those are for her and the fathers to take care of.
Livia - posted on 03/06/2014
I'm confused too. You said you have 7 and list 5. Is he the father of only 5 of the 7? You wont get support for any of the children 18 & older. First you need to get a lawyer and go to your local DHS office to apply for benefits if you need them like food stamps and insurance. If you need cash assistance you can apply for that too. They will look for the father and they will garnish his wages so make sure you bring his social security number and the information on where he works and where he lives. If he isnt working they will give him time to get a job or they will suspend his license and could throw him in jail it depends on what state you live in. I would do it right away and not waste anytime unless he has said he is going to pay you 700-800.00 a month and you can get it in writing and he is going to provide health insurance. Best of luck. Also if he has a job he should be putting away money for college funds. Like I said I wouldn't wait on this, I would act right away. Best of luck to you!
Myia - posted on 03/03/2014
I may have read it wrong but I think the 19 is 19 months old. I too wonder why she is now wanting care for these kids? But then again I am wondering why so many kids? I know there must have been some thought of how to care for that many children. I have 2 and that is all my husband and I could take care of.
Myia - posted on 03/03/2014
Is the boyfriend the father? Does he live with you as a family? There are a lot of questions you need to answer before anyone can give you any advise.
1. is your boyfriend the father of all the kids?
2. do you live together?
3. if he isn't the father who is or do they have more than one father?
4. did you have this many children on purpose?
Lots of other questions need to be explained before you would expect an answer to your question.
~â¥Little Miss - posted on 03/03/2014
Well, I guess it depends on the family structure. If he is not living with you and refuses to pay for all of his kids, then get a lawyer and let the courts figure it out. If he is living with you, it should be family expenses. If he is not the father, then really nothing.
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