7 year old not wanting to read

Lindsey - posted on 01/09/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 7 years old…barely :) We are having a horrid time with trying to get her to read. I have tried everything I can think of. So I am needing other's advice, suggestions, and opinions. I think she can read when she wants to, but she does not like to be told what to do and since it is homework, well, she doesn't want to do it. She feels "forced." Which I can understand.
Honestly I do not think I am very encouraging on this matter right now. I am easily frustrated with this, and I know that is not helpful.
So please!!! Help!

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Angela - posted on 01/10/2014

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So - Jodi's given you the answer. She will have interests, so find books about the stuff that interests her and ensure it's written in a clear, readable print and there are pictures in the book too. Speak to her teacher of course because the teacher can tell you a lot.

Make reading and writing a game from which she's got something to gain. So set up a "treasure hunt" with simple written clues - let her keep the "treasure" at the end (it doesn't need to be anything expensive).

Also have story time with her - when she doesn't need to read a book but YOU are reading to her. Vast numbers of parents nowadays do NOT read stories to their kids - it's a massively important thing to children. Or even just story-telling - where you're NOT reading from a book but just telling them a made-up story. The time parents spend on activities like this with their children makes for more satisfied children who are not continually demanding the latest expensive toy or gadget. because they're getting something far more valuable from their parents.

There are vast numbers of adults who have always associated reading and writing with education, work and being told they MUST do something - they associate literacy with discipline rather than with pleasure. Thus they would NEVER read for pleasure, visit the local public library etc ...... And they have poor literacy skills as well.

I'm sure you don't want your child to become one of those adults. So you know what you must do!

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Lindsey - posted on 01/10/2014

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Alright, YES she can read. However, she is stubborn and will NOT read out loud.

Jodi - posted on 01/09/2014

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Honestly, you flag my post as a personal attack? You said you "think" your daughter can read. It's not my problem if you feel bad because you don't know whether your daughter can read or not. I was simply making the observation about what YOU wrote. It wasn't an attack on you; I was seeking clarification (which you still haven't actually clarified). I have given you plenty of helpful advice too. But quite honestly, you need to figure out first if your daughter CAN actually read - until you know that, then you are fighting a losing battle. Once you establish her reading level, THEN you can find what works for her.

Lindsey - posted on 01/09/2014

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Honestly Jodi, I came here for advice and suggestions, not to be ridiculed by people like you. Thanks for making me feel worse than I already do about the issue at hand.

Jodi - posted on 01/09/2014

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What do you mean "I THINK she can read when she wants to"??? You don't know if she can? Reading regularly is very important, and it is also important that she read aloud to you. You are the parent. You set a routine where every evening, she reads to you. Find reading material that she enjoys - stories she has an interest in. For example, if she loves animals, have animal books available for her to read about them.

Also, given you are not sure if she can actually read or not, I would discuss this with her teacher. Maybe she is experiencing some learning difficulties, and if this is the case, she is likely to be trying to avoid reading at all costs.

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