7 year old STILL wetting the bed

Leisa - posted on 04/07/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )




I was just wondering how to stop bed wetting. My step daughters grandparents have told her that its ok that she wets the bed and makes excuses for her like oh she was cold and now at 7 little miss still uses this excuse and lies to me when i ask her if she has wet the bed. My gp said that it isnt normal for a child over 5 to wet the bed. She wears pull ups every night now because Im tired of washing sheets every single day. I dont know what to do. Should I just leave it or take action???


Sharon - posted on 04/07/2010




Leave it alone. This is not her fault.

Stop trying to shame her about this. So many kids wet the bed up till 12 or 13 yrs of age.

They aren't lazy. They aren't pigs. And your GP is a friggen crack pot.

Take her to a REAL pediatrician. That doctor will eliminate any medical reason for her wetting the bed.

If there is no medical reason, then it is the simple fact that her body is not mature enough to hold her urine all night long.

She will grow out of it.

My son had the same issues. We did everything, eliminated drinks, woke him up twice a night, didn't work.

Finally we just bought extra blankets & pillows and he would strip his bed and wrap up in a blanket for the remainder of the night and I would do the wash in the morning.

Poor kid... this made his life sooo hard. No sleepovers here or at someone elses house. His older brother holding the secret over his head at school... not easy at all.


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JoAnna - posted on 07/02/2012




My 7 year old (almost 8 in a month) still wets the bed. She had frequent UTI's as a child which were caused by Kidney REFLUX. From the constant pressure from the UTI's, she was "trained" to think that she had to go, but never went. So now she associates the pressure with that & holds her urine in... We tried everything as well to help her.. The "no beverages after 7pm, positive re-inforcement, etc".. NOTHING worked.. I was told that after her Kidney Surgery (which was in Dec 2009), this should subside & she should be re-trained to use the toilet when she has urges. Still, this hasn't worked..
My baby sitter (who raised 6 kids of her own & many childcare children), told me to just "let her grow out of it"..

So I would agree with the rest of people who said it is normal.. & Thank you for all the advice...

Rebecca - posted on 04/07/2010




I wet the bed late in life too up till I was about 7 or 8. My problem was a series of UTI's and kidney infections that I developed at 2-3 years old. I don't remember lying to my mother about it but it was a common thing to me and my mother never mentioned it to me she just changed my sheets and helped me get ready for school. To help your sanity and your daughter's self esteem (which may help with the lying) show her how to use the washing machine and get her to wash her own sheets. Don't make her if she doesn't want to but she might like doing it. Sleepovers were difficult. I remember an overnight school camp. My mum packed me my own sheets and a garbage bag to put under the sheets. Thankfully that was one of my good nights and I didn't wet the bed.
Hope this helps.

Leisa - posted on 04/07/2010




Thank you so much. She has been though alot for a 7 year old and only now has her life become better. I will take her back to the doctor or maybe just try when I wake up to go during the night, wake her up too?

I've tried not getting upset. I only get upset when she lies to me. Last year I would get upset with her when she wet the bed but it wasnt helping the situation so I've stopped. Its frustrating. But I know that she has been through so much emotionally turmoil for 5 years, the last 2 years have been better but still she hasnt been happy until now. She loves school soooooo much! She has lots of friends and now is age where sleepovers happen and I dont want her beind teased for wearing a pull up to bed.

Cyndi, we usually have dinner around 6 and missy's bedtime is usually 7.30 school nights and 8 - 8.30 weekends and holidays (if she hasnt already fallen asleep) she has a glass of water with dinner. She brushes her teeth and goes to the toilet before bedtime. If she eats all of her dinner she gets a treat at about 7 but nothing to eat or drink after that. Hope that helps

Cyndi - posted on 04/07/2010




Thank you all for sharing. My 6 1/2 year old has been wearing good nights since he grew out of pull ups. He is a deep sleeper and tends to eat a bunch of food close to bed time. What time to do you and the other moms here stop feeding or allowing your children to eat dinner or snacks? What time do they go to bed? Any suggestions would be helpful. He still gets his bed wet through soaking the diaper.

Karianne - posted on 04/07/2010




My son is 15 and just quit wetting the bed ,he was seen by drs and we tried everything dr said he just had to outgrow it.My 7yr old still wets the bed every night i'm hopeing he out grows it soon.I'd talk to her about the lying though thaat is something she can control.

Tess - posted on 04/07/2010




there could be something wrong medically, don't let the docs brush you off!! but... i wet the bed till very late. had all the tests under the sun done and found nothing, tried waking me at midnight to go. tried the buzzer that went off with the tiniest amount of liquid waking me up!! nothing worked, i used to hide it from mum and dad cos i was embarassed and ashamed!! as i got older it got less but never quite went away. then i left school and nothing since!! i hated school and was bullied but was very happy at home. it was just school cos i was dry in summer hols too.try talking to her see if there is anything. but please never get angry, mum said it was so frustrating and hazrd not to but it made me feel a little safer!!!

Amy - posted on 04/07/2010




Has she been examined by a dr, maybe there is an underlying medical issue.

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