8 weeks pregnant and in trouble...

Kylie - posted on 08/26/2016 ( 15 moms have responded )

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Hi I have been seeing a guy on and off for 3 years and it has never become official until he recently found out I was pregnant. He didn't talk to me for about 2 or 3 months a while back and I had a one night stand with a guy 2 days after my period and he did not cum inside me and then my long termish guy thought he would get in touch with me and came to stay at my house when I was ovulating which was on the 15the July and also I hung out with him the weekend after too..everytime we had sex he came inside me. I went on holiday with my family and found out I'm pregnant.
I am now 8 weeks.
I also have a 4 and a half daughter to think about in this process to a long term abusive ex.
My sister knows the current long term guy and me and her do not get on and she made me tell him that I slept with someone else 2 days after my last period.
So now he thinks it is not his baby....even though I know it is his cause it cannot be scientifically for cum to last that long as I ovulated on the 15th july and had sex with other guy on the 8th July. He also did not cum in me.
So long term guy is calling me all the names under the sun and it's such a stressful situation.
Shall I keep the baby or will it be to hard in the long run?
I really don't know what to do as he won't listen to anything I say.
Feeling very lost

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/26/2016

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ANY unprotected sex can result in pregnancy. Finishing is not required. Precum contains sperm.

I have never heard of a blood test being required for contraceptives, especially not if you use a condom.

Difficulty in conceiving one child does not mean that subsequent conception attempts will also be difficult.

The only sure way to determine parentage is a dna test, and if there is any question, as there is here, one should be performed.

Your sister was right to encourage you to be honest with the long term guy.

And, finally, whether or not you keep this child is a choice only you can make. I encourage you to seek counseling as you make that choice.

Dove - posted on 08/26/2016

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Your body can change.... Everything the other ladies has said is true. You won't know 100% for sure who the father is w/out a DNA test. It doesn't matter if he didn't ejaculate in you or not... that isn't guaranteed birth control.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/26/2016

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How about stop having unprotected sex? That might help. Especially considering pregnancy is not the only concern. STD's are very real.

If you had unprotected sex with both men, you could be having either one of their babies. I am hoping you contacted the one night stand. The only way to know 100% who the father is, is by doing a DNA test once the baby is born.

Michelle - posted on 08/26/2016

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How do you know that you ovulated on that date?
I had sex 1 day after my period ended and fell pregnant. I didn't have sex any other time that month. You don't know who's baby it is so you will have to get a DNA test done once the baby is born.

Jodi - posted on 08/26/2016

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All I can say is that only you can make this choice. Ultimately, I wish people would stop treating sex like it was just something you do like going for a walk, but that's not going to happen. Clearly you had unprotected sex with some random person - are you not concerned about having caught something? Safe sex people!!! Not JUST because of pregnancy. And long termish? WTF is that? Actually have a relationship with the person you are having sex with. But anyhoo....consequences.

Your choice, but you probably won't know who the father is until a DNA test can be done.

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Sarah - posted on 08/27/2016

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I am guessing you needed a blood test to rule out hepatitis, HIV and pregnancy as part of your examination to start BC. Since you have had unprotected sex, your doctor wisely would check you for those things before writing a prescription. As confident as you feel in the paternity of the child, you need a DNA test to prove it to the father anyway.
You have a lot to think about. It is your choice if you want have and parent this baby. Your long termish BF is upset. You'd probably be upset if he got someone else pregnant while you were apart as well. Consider the possibility for either man to be the father and think about whether or not you are ready to parent with either one of them or if this is another child you will raise on your own. Good Luck!
PS> I have had teen girls have sex during their period and conceive a baby, so you cannot rule the other guy out because you were sure you were not ovulating. Eggs can occasionally be released early, late or more than one time in a cycle.

Michelle - posted on 08/26/2016

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The time can change. I used to ovulate half way. That's why I was surprised when I fell pregnant with my daughter. We were actually planning her but that month life just got in the way except for the first day.
It doesn't matter if he doesn't ejaculate, pre-ejaculation contains sperm as well.
Moral of the story, use protection, especially with one night stands.

Kylie - posted on 08/26/2016

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He didn't cum in me. I know when I ovulate as I had trouble getting pregnant with my last child so me and my x partner were always tracking it

Kylie - posted on 08/26/2016

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Neither have I. but my doctor asked for 1. I live in New Zealand. Anyway long term guy has come to terms with it now and has said he doesn't want to loose me

Jodi - posted on 08/26/2016

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Blood test for contraception? Never heard of that being necessary. Are you allergic to latex?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/26/2016

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"I was meant to be getting a blood test to see what contraception I should go on and all this happened. I've had a test and I do not have std."

Yeah but why didn't you use condoms then? I have never heard someone needed a blood test to be on contraceptives. Is this a new standard?

Kylie - posted on 08/26/2016

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He lives in a different town and he lives with his parents still he is very immature 4 his age of 38.. That's why it's long termish wtf

Kylie - posted on 08/26/2016

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I was meant to be getting a blood test to see what contraception I should go on and all this happened. I've had a test and I do not have std.

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