Jen - posted on 12/04/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )
Hi everyone! I am new to Circle of Moms. Recently we had a major problem here in my house & maybe someone has gone thru something similar or could offer some advice since I am at my wits end. I discovered on Monday that one of 2 50 dollar bills was missing out of my wallet. I thought I was crazy & maybe spent it & forgot. Then on Wednesday I discovered the other 50 missing as well as 2 100 dollar bills from my work deposit (I own a business). Knowing that it had to be one of 4 of my five kids, I was totally freaked out & came home early from work & ransacked their rooms looking for my money. Unfortunately I came up empty. I went to the local Sheriff's office & asked if they would be willing to help scare a confession from my kids. They, as well as I were concerned it was one of the teenagers and they said if I got no where with them that they would help out. So when the 3 older kids came home I searched thru their book bags & purse & found nothing. When my 8 year old came home I asked him to empty his pockets & he pulled out a $20. Not getting any answers where he got it from I told him to put his jacket & sneakers & I took him for a ride to the police station. Of course he was hysterical the whole 5 minute ride their but I got him to admit in the parking lot that he told the 20 out of my purse that morning because he didn't think the $20 I gave him for the book fair was enough. So I brought him back home & added up how much the books were that he purchased & it was $36. So nothing was really adding up. He left the house with $40 for books, purchased $36 & came home with $20? So after more interogations he admitted to my husband that he had a couple $10s in his locker at school. After dinner my husband & he took a ride to school & came home with a crumpled up wad of money from the top shelf of his locker that added up to $199!!!!! The pile included 2 $50s, but he insists that he did not take them this past week. I don't know whether to believe him or not because everything that came out of his mouth had been nothing but lies. Plus we have the missing $100s that haven't popped up yet. He claims he's been taking the money out of my purse for a while now & taking it to school to be "cool". So I don't know if he did take all the money or if one of the other kids took the $300 from this weekend so now I have 2 "thieves" in the house or if he is the only culprit. I don't know how to punish him for this. $200 is alot of money for an 8 year to steal over time. I know you are all thinking I am probably a ditz for not noticing money missing out of my purse but he had been taking the money from my work deposits which I normally don't add up until the end of the week so I would have no idea if money is missing. I know now I can't leave my purse laying around like I have. I don't know what to do with him. Take him back to the police station & have (pretend) to book & charge him with petty larceny enough to scare him. I'm nervous if he is doing stuff like this now what does the future hold. My kids are pretty good kids. They dont get into trouble at school. I know he is crying out for attention. But I can't let this go unpunished. Our family is a blended family, we got married last summer. The 2 older kids are my husbands, the 2 middle are mine & the baby is ours. We all live together. I think he feels "lost" in the mix since he has to share me with more people than ever before. I just don't know what to do. Any suggestions?