9 month old son who doesn's sleep much day or night and cries alot

Stephanie - posted on 04/13/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hello all,
I am a mother of a four year old daughter and a nine month old son. I am experiencing some problems with my son that I did not experience with my daughter nor with any of the many children I have watched throughout the years. Ever since the day of birth it has been a constant struggle with my son. He has never slept through the night, he has uncontrollable crying/screaming episodes, and he doesn’t sleep well day or night. For a while day or night it was that he would sleep in 20 minute episodes. At times I get up anywhere from 2-15 times a night between the hours of 10 pm and 4 am, sometimes he wants a bottle, many times not he just cries, tosses, turns, kicks, smacks, etc. He also fights really badly and when I say this I mean like wailing arms and legs and throwing his self backwards. He was diagnosed with acid reflux at approximately 2-3 months old and put on Zantac. His formula was changed from Gerber Good Start Gentle to Gerber Good Start Soothe to Similac Advance to Similac Soy to Similac Alimentum (worst I ever experienced him) back to Similac Soy. He has been having problems with constipation since about 5 months so the doctors finally put him on Miralax about 3-4 weeks ago. The first 6 months or so of birth the doctors kept ruling out that it was Colic, then they started saying that it was all going to get better with time that’s all they could tell me, then they put him on constipation meds because he had an episode of the uncontrollable crying and fighting at the office one day for an hour and thirty mins straight and they seem so concerned, only to leave me with I hope this fixes the problem and he gets to be a happier baby. NO nothing has worked; I am still experiencing the same problems since day one. Sometimes they seem to be getting a little better only to get worse a few days later, it’s a never ending cycle. Not to mention I am beyond physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted and need relief for him and I. I work 12 hour shifts, so I do not get much rest and I am nodding on and off on my way to and from work on my 40 min drive three times a week. I have also broke down to the doctors crying asking for help, I have asked for test to be done to make sure nothing is wrong, but I continually get nowhere with the doctors. Any other mothers experienced these problems? If so what helped? Any suggestions?

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Sarah - posted on 04/14/2016

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A fever is a fever, if he is not having a temperature that you can record on a thermometer; then he does not have a fever. Stop giving him juice, it is useless calories. He can have water or formula. If he fights this, mix the juice 50/50 with water for a few days and then 25/75 juice/water for a few days and then straight to water. who wouldn't prefer a cool sweet drink?
Regarding his growth; a doctor will plot his height and weight on a chart a birth and the chart the same measurements at each visit; as long as he is following a smooth curve up the growth curve chart then he is growing fine.
If you child really is only sleeping for 4-5 total hours out of 24 hours there is something wrong. At 9 months he still needs about 16-18 hours of sleep per day. Lack of sleep can cause lots of troubles, and I'd demand to go back to the doctor. Keep an exact journal of every thing he does to the minute, and his mood a the time. Once you have a weeks worth of data you can go back and show the doc what is going on. One in office visit fee )if you have to do self pay) will be worth the sanity. If you can ask the doctor to see this as a follow up, it may not get charged at all. A doctor cannot refuse to see your child based on your ability to pay. Push your doctor, tell him you think he is missing something, tell him no baby should be this overtired and cranky, push him to look for an answer.

Stephanie - posted on 04/13/2016

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Yes ma'am I couldn't begin to tell you how frazzled and tired I am at this point. I could take him to the ER for a second opinion but not another doctor because of insurance. He has not had any labs, testing, nor exams done to clarify the issue, I have mentioned running some test to the doctors and they say that he doesn't give them a reason as far as his weight goes to run any test. He weighs 16 pounds at age 9 months. They say he is growing like he is supposed to, but me being a parent I do not think so, he just seems so small. Honestly he never ever seems to be content with anything. I honestly think I have tried everything possible and he never seems to be content and comfortable. I try to get him to sleep as much as I can which is somewhere between 4-5 hours in a 24 hour period and most of that is in increments that vary day to day. I know he has to be overly tired from dealing with this just like I am. Yes, he is currently eating solid foods and drinking formula which is about 4 oz. every 4-8 hours. He seems to like cold juice more than anything most of the time. Makes me wonder if he is always feverish on the inside?

Sarah - posted on 04/13/2016

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You must be so frazzled and tired by now. From what I read he seems to be in overdrive all the time; cranky, seemingly uncomfortable and overtired. Since you are not getting much help from your pediatrician; consider a second opinion from a doctor at a teaching facility. Has he had any labs, tests or exams to help clarify the issue? If it is a GI problem, then it really needs to be addressed with more that a can of miralax and a wish for good luck.
Has he been gaining weight and reaching milestones? Does he ever seem content? if so, when? Keep a detailed log with video clips of his behavior to show the doctor. In keeping a journal, you may start o see a pattern. Try as much as you can to get him enough sleep. Sleep deprivation can cause a state of such stress in a baby. Does he take solids yet?
I had a fussy one for sure; but no where near what you are experiencing. Tell us more; maybe there is a clue.

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