9 YR OLD DAUGHTER STOLE MY JOINT IN HER BACK PACK

Layla - posted on 08/26/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )

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4 year old daughter told me she seen my 9 yr old empty her back pack and my joint fell out, i am medically prescribed marijuana smoker due to certain issues. Would have never guess my 9 yr old would do that at aww in shock, I have learned my own personal lesson on being more careful. I have confronted her after a few lies she told me the truth, i spanked her and told her the seriousness of her actions. I believe she understands now what she did was wrong as a follow up i seeking best form of discipline for her to make it stick. Any advice is greatly appreciated as everybody makes mistakes how we handle it from then on is what is important to me so mistakes are not made again that can cause a whole family to be in jeopardy. I am considering to be really tuff on her with not much outside social activities and wondering if this is a good step or not. Thanks

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MaryAnn - posted on 08/26/2015

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ALL medications should be put of reach from children. Other adults, too, especially if there is any percieved benefit for someone to use it. In fact... Unless you are at risk of dying if others dont know where to find it (ie insulin or epipen) keep details at the bare minimum.
Spanking for this is ridiculous. It is important to have talks about drugs. Prescription or otherwise- it is very dangerous to use them without medical supervision. Taking drugs away from those who are prescribed them is dangerous, too, because as someone who is not their doctor- you dont know the consequences.
But seriously. Not phased by your use, dont care why ou do, keep it out of reach. Put it in a locked box. Talk to your kids about drug use. Dont use drug names with the 4 year old- as far as that child needs to know, a drug is a drug is a drug is a drug. The nine year old may need a more detailed talk- its likelyher peers and teachers have spoken to her on the subject, and they should, its a big conversation in these times. She may need to be reminded that it is rude to talk about other peoples medications and health issues. Dont encourage her to lie, but you seriously do not need preteens to know that somewhere there is a locked box with medical grade marijuana in it. It may cause theft problems, social problems, and legal problems.
Put your shit AWAY.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/26/2015

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What also is disturbing, is that the 4 year old new well enough what it was to tell. How would you feel if one of your kids ate the joint? Or smoked it? You realize that CPS could get involved right? That if any other adult saw this in your childs backpack, this could mean losing your kids? NO need for your kids to know what this is, no need for you to smoke around them, no need for them to have access to it. This is so unbelievably irresponsible of you.

Dove - posted on 08/26/2015

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Don't spank her for it... Spanking is stupid in the first place, but spanking a child for the parent's mistake is just plain absurd..

It should never have been around your children. They shouldn't even SEE it... keep it locked up and out of reach like you would other medications.

She doesn't need punished... she needs educated and supervised. If you've got a NINE year old stealing joints.. it sounds like your entire household could benefit from some professional help asap.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/26/2015

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Well first of all, the pot NEVER should have been around your kids. PERIOD. No excuses. Secondly, you spanked her??? Clearly she knows what it is because she has seen a joint being used. Regardless of WHY you are using it (quite frankly I don't care if it is recreation or medicinal) kids should not be exposed.

Again, why did you spank her? Disciplinary action certainly should be taken, but hitting your child???

You need to educate your child on drug abuse, use, and misuse. Why they should not do it, steal it, use it, or share it.

Your child is 9. THere are more issues than you are exposing if your 9 year old is stealing joints from you. I would be drug testing, and having an exam on her. Either this is a troll post, or there is more than meets the eye here.

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Gena - posted on 08/26/2015

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Another thing i wanted to add. I am a cigarette smoker and I even keep my smokes in a special cupboard at home where my son can't reach. If you smoke cigarettes you might want to hide those as well..not that your nine yr old takes them. And when I have a pack outside my son knows very well he may not touch it.

Gena - posted on 08/26/2015

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Spanking her for taking the joint that belongs to you..that you didnt hide away well enough...thats wrong!! Its your fault that your child had access to it.
You should buy yourself one of those medicine boxes that you screw to the wall and keep it locked. ANY kind of medicine should be in a medicine box or shelf that has child safety so they can't go open it. Instead of punishing your child you should sit down and talk with them about drugs and medication.
I understand that marijuana is used as medication,but try not to do it in front of your children.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/26/2015

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" I am considering to be really tuff on her with not much outside social activities and wondering if this is a good step or not. Thanks"

STOP punishing your kids for your mistakes and YOUR guilt. It is NOT a good step. Punish yourself by not smoking for a week.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 08/26/2015

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First, when you are granted that med marijuana card, you have to agree to NEVER leave it where someone else, especially a child, can access it.
I don't care why you use either, but common sense says: We keep alcohol, and tobacco where our young children cannot access it, thus we should do the same with marjuana. MONITOR YOURSELF A BIT MORE CLOSELY.

Second, how do you know that she kyped your joint? You could have dropped the damn thing yourself.

Spanking a 9 year old, who is MORE than old enough to have a rational discussion and consequences was over the top. YOU left your joint where it could be accessed. She sees you using, so assumes that it's no big deal.

Get a grip. I've used, recreationally, but my kids never SAW the stuff, much less had open access when they were those ages. Learn how to communicate effectively without using physical punishment. Make your consequences appropriate for both age, and infraction.

You need to be thankful that the damned thing didn't surface at school...You'd be facing a lot worse than some criticism here.

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