A 15 Year Old Will Not Listen To Any One and gets nothing but bad grades we have talked to her and that just does not seem to work....... What Can We Do, We Have Taken Her Phone?

Andrea - posted on 10/15/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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i have a 15 year old step daughter that will not listen to anything we say, we aske her to do somting all she does it says ok and does not get up and do nothing she just sits their on her butt continuing to do nothing. another problem we are having is she WILL not keep her grades up.... we have taken her phone. what else can we do???

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Andrea - posted on 10/15/2012

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Oh Yes SHe Needs Cousling Big Time ANd Yes We Have Spoke With Some People About Haveing A Counslor See Her It Is In THe Works. We Also Just Got Her Tested For ADHD Medication And The Doctor Has Put Her On Some Medications Which Are Helping As Long As She Takes The Pills............ She is Not a Severed ADHD she Just Goes Craazy When She Has Test At School I Tryed To Help Her With An Assignment About 20 mins Ago She Copped an Attitude so i stopped Helping Her.....

Jodi - posted on 10/15/2012

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Ah, well, your step-daughter has more issues she's had to deal with than my kids, so I guess it is going to reflect in her behaviour. Have you sought any outside help from a counsellor?

Andrea - posted on 10/15/2012

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Jodi- Thank YOu The Issue Is we Have Tried All Of These, Nothing Seems To Work With Her, She is A Child That Thinks Shes In Charge And She Is Not, her Father Spoiled Her Big Time When She Was Little And I KNow This Is THe First Problem, She Has Tried Breaking Her Father And I Up, And Yes She Does Disrespect Me, And Thats When i Layed In To Her ( I Have Never Hit Her ) And Told Her How It makes Me Feel And This is My House And That She Will Follow My Rules Since Its My House She Dont Like That To Well But Its My House, Her Mother Is addicted To Drugs and Let Her RUN WILD now her Father And i Have To Deal with It. He Mom Is Sittine in Court This Week For THe Drug Charges....... How ever, I Just Dont Know What Else To Do......... She is A Very Pretty Girl But THe way She acts and Her Attitude Makes Her Look REAL UGLY!!!!!

Jodi - posted on 10/15/2012

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Who does her laundry? Who cooks her meal (or for that matter, stocks the pantry)? Who buys her clothes? I assume she has some access to computer? Whose is it? TV? Believe me, there are a lot of privileges right there. Firstly, school is her JOB. Every person in our house has a job. My childrens' job is to go to school. They understand that (and yes, I have a 15 year old). I expect them to make their best efforts at their job, just as my husband and I make our best efforts at ours. After our jobs, we all have chores and/or homework. And we all deserve mutual respect for our efforts.



Now, having said that, disrespect around here will result in loss of some of those privileges I spelled out above. Those privileges are available because everyone makes their best efforts. You don't get them if you can't take part in those efforts (which, as I said, includes school).



So think about what you consider a privilege in your house, sit down with your step-daughter (or maybe your partner should sit down with her) and make it clear what are considered privileges in your home, and that efforts must be made to earn those, or she can't have them. Period. Not sure if it will work, because I don't know your situation, but it works with my children.

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