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Nicky - posted on 10/16/2009




I have just started putting my little girl in a schedule although it is very relaxed it helps organise my day and give me time to do things that i want to do without having to be continually with her. It also give her structure so she knows that at 12.30pm it is sleep time until 2.30pm and it has also helped considerably with her sleeping pattern.

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Stifler's - posted on 08/06/2011




They will get into a routine themselves by 2 monthsish. Before then being erratic is okay. I never had to read a book to know that they feed, then play for a bit then look sleepy and go to bed.

Belinda - posted on 08/06/2011




I sujest you take a look at Baby Bliss rutines. They were great for my 2 youngest boys. They go to bed with no worries, meals & bath times are easy. My eldest son Colby is 3 1/2 & we still struggle to get him to do things. Colby was not on a rutine. Rutines make life easyer with young kids as they grow older :)

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Babies do well on routines, not artificial parent-directed schedules - especially young babies. That's why medical organizations like the AAP have put out warming specifically about the dangers of Babywise:


You can find more about the dangers and bad advice in Babywise here:


Honestly, I'd suggest taking a week to get a feel for when baby eats and naps, and build a schedule around that. But since baby's needs change frequently in the first year, you need to know that your routine will be flexible. A growth spurt or new milestones will mean baby might need an extra feed or a longer nap.

Kristi - posted on 10/16/2009




I think that finding a good rhythm for your family is more important than putting everyone on a schedule. I say this because if you have your baby on a schedule and the family's schedule needs change for work, school, activities, whatever - then you end up disrupting poor baby! Our kids are in a Waldorf school where the whole day, week, year and life in general is based on finding and working with rhythm. Babies are not born with a rhythm, so they rely on their family to help them find it. Baby wearing helps a lot in establishing good communication between mom, dad and baby. Then baby is just following along with the family rhythm. It's also easier to respond to on-demand nursing which is best for baby (and mom) in the beginning. If you are already wearing baby, she won't disrupt what you are doing when you need to nurse her. So easy! If you are new to nursing - take heart - practice makes perfect!! As baby gets older and you work solids into the routine, you can bring baby into your family's already set mealtimes and snacktimes, supplementing with nursing until he/she no longer needs to nurse (let baby self-wean). Baby naps when she needs to, and you can lay her down when she deep sleeps, but you will see her establishing this in tune with the rhythm of the day. Work with a shop that sells good baby wraps - mei tais, moby wraps, etc. - and will let you try out different ones until you find the kind that works best for you. Abandon the little car carriers. Leave them in the car. Save your arm. You will lose baby weight, get strong, and your baby will be so happy if you wear her! I have a dear friend who put her boys on a strict schedule when they were babies and naturally, they are still on schedules now at 4 and 6. This mom cannot do ANYTHING outside her kids' set schedule or they lose their minds. I think it's a travesty to do that unless you never want to leave your house. Good luck!

Kristina - posted on 10/16/2009




After watching all those TLC tv shows when I was preggo, I learned from their mistakes!!!! Everyone on them said that the baby was going to follow their schedule....and were they WRONG!!!! For the first six weeks I followed my son's schedule....waking, feeding, and all. By his 2nd month he was sleeping through the night w/ no feedings.Now don't get me wrong you(mother) can not do this all by yourself, the baby's father needs to step in and do his part to help out too!!! I also think when the child gets a few months older is when you should start incorporating a schedule into their life slowly. But this is just my opinion and how I have done it w/ my son.

Melanie - posted on 10/16/2009




I thought having a rountine went really well on my 1st child but my 2nd was special needs so having a routine meant we couldn't change it at all. I think a routine is fine but you have to be able to adapt it depending on ur day. x

Mandy - posted on 10/16/2009




Heidi's schedule sounds very similar to what I had my son on at that age. I HIGHLY believe in a schedule, so does our in-home care provider (I am a full time working Mom). It made his life easier and so did it ours. He was an extremly happy child and when he had family watching him for whatever reason it helped them understand what he needed/wanted. It is so important to have a schedule to help them - it keeps the stress down and the happiness up for everyone! Hope that helps. :)

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i loved it ( mydaughter is now 2) and i had her on the schedual at 6 weeks. she sleep thre the night at 7 weeks (12hours) and is a really easy baby. I really believe it is the schedual that did it.

Kristen - posted on 10/16/2009




I know a mother who lives and dies by the babywise "schedule". It has completely consumed her life, and her child has had major sleep and eating issues. Her child can not sleep anywhere other than in her own bed and the parents can not doing anything that is outside of the schedule, date nights, family functions, trips to the store must all be scheduled around the kid. I definitely think some sort of routine is a good idea, so there is some structure. Napping around the same time everyday, a bedtime routine of bathing and reading, and going to bed around the same time every night. But, your baby will let you know when they are hungry or when they need a clean diaper! They do not look at the clock and say "oh it's 3:00 mom, I should be eating now." A schedule is good but your kid should also be flexible enough that if something comes up and the schedule fluctuates a little it doesn't throw off the mojo. Because things will come up! Plus, while my kid is the love of my life, I should still be able to have a life and do the things my husband and I want to do. This makes for a happy mommy and marriage! I don't understand the need to wake your baby to feed them. They will wake up if they are hungry and let you know they are hungry. Isn't waking them encouraging them to not sleep through the night? Why would any parent in their right mind encourage that?

Limara - posted on 10/16/2009




WE sort of have a schedule for Ollie.
9-10am: breakfast - toast
12pm; Nap - 2 or 3 hours
After nap: Lunch
6pm: dinner
7pm: bed
My eldest would not and still will not get in to a routine, no matter how hard I try. She decides when she eats and when she goes to sleep. at the ripe old age of 2 and a half she has decided that she does not need a nap. she wakes up at between 8am and 9am and does not go to sleep till at least 10pm but is at about 11pm, if not later, most nights. The one routine we do have for Kayla is her lunch is always at 12.30, once Ollie has gone down for his nap. comparing the two I would say that a routine is better but it will be very hard to put a child, who doesn't have a routine, onto one.

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We never really found the need to put Lily on a schedule - and in fact my work doesnt really allow for a strict schedule. We did everything on demand - although we treated night feeds differently to day ones to distinguish between those - but otherwise she just ate, slept etc when she needed to. She actually set hersefl a bit of a routine anyway - not by time but she would always needs three naps a day evenly spread from the time she originally woke from her nighttime sleep. Sleep was/is always followed by clean nappy and food and then play.

Leslie - posted on 10/16/2009




I'm for scheduling. I think it does help your child feel more secure and gives them structure. Its also easier on mom especially if you have more than one. But I am very flexible I do not let the schedule rule my life. If my mom called and said lets go shopping for the day, I go. I do have friends that are so scheduled they have to be back home by this time or so on. I think structure is good, but it won't hurt to mix it up every now and then. oh and if you breast feed, scheduling is a must in my opinion.

Marcy - posted on 10/16/2009




I tired a schedule for a few days and it drove me nuts. If you have the time and you are home its really up to you. We just kind of do with the flow in our house. Its amazing though that in a way, we have created a schedule from it. My son has no definite time that he goes to bed but usually he is asleep between 7:45 and 8:30 nightly (except last night we were carving pumpkins and he was too excited to fall asleep). I really think a lot of it has to do with the the type of person you are. I thought for sure I would have a strict schedule but I found that it was harder to adhere to (my hubby and I work full time out of the house) than just winging in. Either way, as long as your kiddos are getting fed, clothed, getting enough sleep and getting lots of love I don't think you can go wrong.

Connie - posted on 10/16/2009




Not sure how old your baby is. I have 4 kids. I breastfeed and I do not remember a schedule per say. But then my older two are 19 months apart and my younger 2 are 14 months apart. But then I'm kinda a more relaxed person . IT also depends on their ages. I was not really all that rigid, but that works for some people. There are many different methods that work for people. Just don't get too upset if the baby or your schedule changes. I remember as soon as I got used to one schedule it changed :) Different kids are also different. But really love is what is really important and I held my kids a lot and they are not spoiled and are very responsible .SO now they are 27,26,17,16. I was a stay at home mom. so they were not on a day care schedule, I did do the mothers day out thing, which was a nice break. So try something if it is not too crazy and if that does not work then try something else. Good luck and I hope that you find some help.

Sarah - posted on 10/16/2009




You need to make a schedule for you and your baby, on your terms not someone elses. To me the first few months it doesnt mater what time they eat or sleep, just as long as its the same time every time. For example, when I went back to work my oldest was 8 weeks, by this time he was sleeping most nights all night, but he didnt go to bed until 10 pm my husband worked 2nd shift and would get up with him around 9 or 9:30 in the morning and start their morning schedule while I was working. Now as Ryan got older things had to change, I didnt want him staying up too late when school started so at about 12 months old we got into a better habit of bed time by 8. Both of my children do wonderful on a schedule, school helps alot, I think they are much happier because they know what to expect and there are very few suprises though out the day.

Alicia - posted on 10/16/2009




I believe a baby should be fed on demand, as well as being held, snuggled and soothed on demand. This is a little baby who doesn't understand time, who cannot tell you what he/she needs, and you will never look back at your life and think "gee, I wish I had held my baby less" or "I wish I hadn't nursed him/her so much." This is a stage and being a mother is not easy. Enjoy your baby and give him/her what he/she needs whenever they seek your attention. :)

Ellen - posted on 10/16/2009




If you're a stay at home mom, I don't think you need to put your baby on a schedule. Your baby will let you know when they are tired,or hungry and you will know when they are in need of a diaper change. To me the only real time they need to be on a schedule is at night, just get them into a routine, bath them, feed them, rock them, then put them down for the night. it may take them a little while to get the routine but they will. Good Luck, the most important think is they feel secure and loved

Alisa - posted on 10/16/2009




I highly reccomend scheduling feedings and naptimes, it helps for better night time sleeping. Bottle feedings every 3-4 hrs. if not awake by 4 hrs. wake and feed, of course if your breast feeding, it would be every 2-3 hrs. with by 3 hrs. wake up and feed. This actully gives them enough food throughout the day that they will be better sleepers at night. In time they will be on a routine that you can set your clock by, and plan around if you want to.

Heidi - posted on 10/16/2009




Well I was always strict on a schedule for my boys. It made life much easier. I know far to many people that let the baby decide when to eat, sleep and what not. I am an organized person so that always worked for me. Here is the schedule I had with my boys when they were babies.

6:30am wake up, and change night time diaper

7am breakfast

7:30am get baby dressed and washed up

8am morning bottle, change diaper

9:30 to 10:30 nap time

12pm lunch

12:30pm change diaper , and then abottle and then nap time by 1pm.

3pm wake up and change diaper

5pm dinner

5:30pm after supper bottle

6:30pm bath time

7pm story time and snuggle

7:30 bed time bottle and in bed by 8pm

This was there schedule till they were 10 months old and by then the morning nap was gone. So instead of a morning nap we would go for a walk or do some sort of activity.

It made my life easier so I could organize my days.

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