A cheating husband..

Unknown - posted on 07/20/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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It's crazy on how you deal with this problem and it was never easy to move on. I've been married now for 10 years with 3 girls. Our first year was everything until I found out he was cheating on me. It was crazy and I was hurt. I wanted to die when I found that he was having an affair not once but many times. I have 3 beautiful children I don't wanna leave them behind. It's true that ones a cheater will always be a cheater they would never change. I wanted to divorce him so bad because I don't wanna live my life like this with him miserable. But I want my kids to have a father figure even though I'm forever in pain. My husband is a good father and his a good provider. He his good looking man too. I know the more I stay with my marriage the more I get hurt. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm still dealing with this marriage and I don't know when it will last. I can never trust him ever again because he will never change . The ultimate revenge is taking the time to heal and forgive... Because God is my healer.



I'm so much in pain but I want the best for my kids.
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~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/20/2016

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I am pretty much going to copy my post that I said earlier to you in a previous thread.

Unknown. You are teaching your children what marriage is like. You are teaching your girls to stay with a man even when he cheats. You are teaching them to accept this kind of abuse. It is often less damaging to leave a marriage, rather than "stay for the kids". I don't care how "good looking" your husband is. That is not a reason for him to have sex with other women. He is a great provider? Awesome, that means you will get allimony and child support.

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Gloria - posted on 07/22/2016

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I am very proud of your courage to stay in the marriage although it's painful for you seeing your husband cheat. I've experienced what you are experiencing and I can feel for you. What you called the "revenge" is not really revenge. It's actually the best that you can do under the circumstance for your kids as well as for your marriage. God is the only one who can change hearts. Your husband may eventually be touched by your forgiveness and turn around, The important thing is not just staying but how you interact with him. Do you guys communicate? Did you ever discuss the reason for his affairs? Would you like to find out the root cause of his action so both of you can tackle it together? It is important to stay with the focus of mending the marriage instead of staying because of his financial support and other reasons. Your pain will not go away until you both focus on love instead of coexistence. It's normal for a marriage to go through crisis after a long period of time; especially after having kids. But I can see light at the other end of the tunnel. Will be praying for you! Take care.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/20/2016

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Now is not the time to feel sorry for yourself. Now is the time to act. Do. Get it done. Now is the time to create a better future for yourself. First step. find a lawyer immediately. Next step, find a counselor to help you through these years of feeling like you are not worth love and commitment.

Unknown - posted on 07/20/2016

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I know I'm stupid. I don't know what's holding me back honestly nothing. It's just my kids future. Sometime i feel
Sorry for myself because no more he hurts me and I still forgive him. I give him so many chances but those those chances are made to be broken. I know I can never change him.

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