A drinking and pot smoking step son

Andrea - posted on 09/15/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )




My 24 year old step son has moved in with his (1.5 years now), is a father and lives a life of entitlement....my husband has a hard time taking off the rose coloured glasses..the latest is my stepson came home reeking of pot...I work at home and we have a 7 year old son. There are many more stories to tell, but I;m not sure how to handle this one, do I text my husband at work and ruin his day or do I wait until he comes home and talk then, face to face (my preference). I will not go and talk to my stepson, he is an angry drunk and I'm assuming the same when using drugs. Any advice?


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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/15/2014




A marijuana user will not be 'angry'...so if he's an 'angry' user, it's not pot.

What were the conditions set when this adult child moved back into the home? If there were none, then there's not a lot you can do except tell his dad to man up and enforce some house rules.

Ev - posted on 09/15/2014




I would speak to his father when he gets home. List your worries about his drinking and pot use around the younger child. Do not nag your husband but tell him that you are not comfortable with the step son being in your home drinking and using pot and that he needs to get out on his own or get clean and follow the house rules. Its your house too. If you guys did not establish any kind of house rules for all adults to follow then you need to do so now.

Carolina - posted on 09/15/2014




I've never heard of an angry pot head. So maybe talking to him while he is high, might be better.
Also, he is 24 and should be old enough/considerate enough of your young son yo at least change his shirt or shower before he interacts with him. (at the very least)

You could always talk to both of them at the same time.

Good luck!

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