A father of 3 Drugdealer

Erica - posted on 06/17/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am the mother of three smart amazing kids 15,12,9 their father has been a drug dealer for almost 20 years and still has not tried giving it up once he also has two older children that are not mine but like mine 18&20. Which totals him at 5 children he has not once thought about how they must feel about the situation he is all for himself and his own selfish pleasures in life. Me and him have had been in a relationship for 13 years and i final had enough of the dealing. So I being the mother of three of them i jad to make a decision for our children and be a good example for them. I love and still care for my childrens father and wish that he would wake up and realize that its more to life that the dealing drugs. He has 5 children that he should think about during this mess. And im unsure if i want my children around that lifestyle anymore. As far as them visiting him he has no time for them at all. He thinks taking tjem.to mall for shoes and clothes makes everthing okay. But he couldnt tell u when their birthdays are or even what grade their in:( So my question is do i allow my children to be apart of his selfishness? Or do i keep them away until he finds himself?

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Julia - posted on 06/18/2013

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I have had a problem close to this as well. I have 3 kids with 3 different men and 2 of the men are drug dealers. I have personally choosen to have the kids not be with their dad because I don't want them to be around drugs in any way, shape or form. I feel like its bad for children to be around adults that dont have full control of theselves. You can always talk with your kids about the feelings they have towards their dad and then judge the situation more after that.

Good luck

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Samantha - posted on 06/18/2013

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He may never "find" himself which is the WORST reality to come to. I recently had to accept that my baby's father is completely lost and CAN NOT do the right thing even though he knows what the right thing is. I think some people can't do the right thing and at the end of the day your children are all that should matter.

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