A lot of Issues....advice please???

Ena - posted on 01/30/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Ok I have some issues and concerns here. My boyfriend and I have been together 9 months we have been discussing marriage and starting a family together. But last month a girl he used to mess with before me called him and told him that she had a baby for him which neither one of us knew. Ever since I've been feeling really hurt and down like someone smashed the cake at my birthday party. It's been hard for me to even really look at the kid which sounds wrong. Because he has three other kids which I adore and we all have family day together and sometimes just me and his three other kids. I have been trying though I've bought her some clothes hold and feed her to show I care which I do care but I just feel like there's a knife in my chest....and the other problem is idk if the baby(newborn) really likes me she wails every time I hold or touch her, but I also think I may be pregnant(heard a story about that not sure how true). Which leads me to the most hurtful thing of all when I ask my bf hypothetically if I were pregnant what would he want to do and he said he doesnt want to keep it because it's not in his budget right now, also makes me feel worse because I feel like he would want me to give up mine when everyone keeps their own....someone please give me there outlook on it please.

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Ena - posted on 01/31/2013

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All of them are from different moms which I knew when meeting him this is the first time I've ever been with a guy with kids and so many at that usually I would end it before it would become anything serious or go past the dating stage. But I really like him and his kids the problem is the new BM sprun this really on both of us out of no where, when I felt like we were building something of our own now I feel like I've been put on a slow cooking back burner.

Amy - posted on 01/31/2013

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Personally I probably would of walked the other way when I found out he already had 3 kids, I know that sounds horrible but that's a lot of kids. Then to find out there is another one, if I were with him I would of tripled up on birth control. Are all these kids with different moms or are the first 3 with 1 and the 4th with someone else? I would also be slightly concerned if I was with someone who introduced so many different people into their child's lives, I don't know that after only 9 months no matter how serious that I would be allowing a boyfriend to be watching my kids.

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